Why People Get Sick
Deepak Chopra - March 24, 2006
Most people assume that germs and genes cause disease. The germ theory has brought us a long way, and genetic theory promises to take us even further. But there is still a mystery surrounding why certain people get sick while others don't.
For example, studies show that if cold virus is placed directly into a person's nose, the chance of getting a cold is about 1 in 8; being exposed to chill, damp, or a draft doesn't increase these odds. Also, when the Black Death wiped out a third of Europe's population in the 14th century, no one knows why the other two-thirds, who were certainly exposed, didn't die.
Every day each of us inhales or ingests enough germs to cause a variety of diseases we never contract. Some sort of "control by the host" seems to be at work. This refers to the body's ability to live with disease-causing agents without getting sick. Germs aren't the only factor. Statistics show that severely ill people often wait until a significant date has passed, such as Christmas or their birthday, before suddenly dying. Studies going back to the Korean War showed that young soldiers in their early twenties had serious blockage of their coronary arteries, yet the disease doesn't show up until middle age. Not everyone exposed to HIV contracts the virus, and in a few rare instances, those with AIDS have reversed their viral status form positive t negative.
Why, then, would you or I get sick when someone else equally at risk doesn't?
The best way to get sick is to suffer from as many of the following conditions as possible:
--Unsanitary conditions: massive exposure to germs remains a major factor
--Being poor: poverty degrades life on all fronts, including health.
--High stress: physical and psychological stress damage the immune system.
--Depression and anxiety: untreated psychological disorders weaken resistance to a wide range of diseases, perhaps even cancer
--Lack of coping mechanisms: stress by itself is a negative factor, but the inability to bounce back form it is more important.
--Lack of control, victimization: all stresses become much worse if you feel that you have no control over your own life.
--Inertia, sedentary lifestyle: if you are inactive and have no outside interests, you chance of getting sick rises sharply
--Feeling alone and unloved: emotional deprivation is as unhealthy as deprivation of good food.
--Sudden loss: the sudden loss of a job or spouse, a reversal in finances, or finding yourself in the midst of a war or natural disaster all constitute a state of loss and lead to higher risk of getting sick.
--Growing old: once considered a major cause of illness, aging is now known not to be a direct cause. Being healthy into your eighties should be your expectation, but if you neglect yourself in old age, the body becomes vastly more susceptible to disease.
None of these factors comes as a huge surprise, since public health officials have drummed into us that most illness in modern society is a "lifestyle disease" born of stress, lack of exercise, and other factors external to germs. But I think most people still assume that being fat, for example, is worse for you than stress, which certainly isn't the case. Outside of diabetes and joint problems, it's hard to find a serious link between moderate overweight and any disorder, while stress and its offshoots are major risks. they exaggerate the effect of aging. Yet in the absence of high blood pressure and artery disease, most people will live a very long time, probably in good health until they contract their final illness. (I've covered a dozen other common beliefs, both true and false, in earlier posts recently.)
But the mystery of who specifically gets sick remains unsolved, in part because there are subtle factors that few experts have adequately examined.
--Some people get sick because they expect to.
--Some people get sick, or sicker, after they are diagnosed with a disease.
--Disease brings certain benefits, known as "secondary gain," that make it positive. The classic example is a child who pretends to be sick in order to get more love and attention, but adults find secondary gains of their own, such as not having to take responsibility for their lives or finding an escape from a situation they can't cope with.
--Some people get sick because they want to give up, or even die.
--Some people have nothing better to do than to get sick.
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Posted by Deepak Chopra at March 24, 2006 01:09 PM
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Do you have that in pill form Doc?
Yeah . . .: Motivation?
Yet now fully realizing the ageless folly of Scriptural Greed, and our devout willingness to utilize the scorched earth policy upon our very own temple: the earth! Willing to quite knowingly poison beyond repair the very planet’s biosphere/ecosphere for the immediate generations yet to come, all for profit and avarice; incredible!
How canst one with humble intent neglect our true aim: peace on earth? Indeed, did not Jesus and Gandhi amongst many possible others already perish in attempting to ascend, does the next incarnation, perhaps penultimately the final ‘physical’ incarnation of a collective will of humankind hearken our true release? To transcend the moment and bypass the heretofore indomitable generational, communicational, and spiritual barriers that hast ever kept us all from binding together, is this not humankind’s ultimate physical fate?
Or is Hell even talking to each other when we know mighty guns and soldiers lay in wait . . .
peace
'f-o-r-m'
sorry
Hi Deepak, the following are some of the reasons people stay healthy.
1.They eat right. Their diet consists of adequate amounts of vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, co-enzymes, co-factors. They consume, fresh organic vegetables, fruits, dairy, honey, high fiber foods, Kosher meats, raw nuts and seeds, olive oil, and canola oil. They don't consume things made out of white sugar, white flour, hydrogenated oils, high fructose corn syrup, processed foods and fast foods.
2. They drink 8 to 10 cups of pure water. They stay away from all the pops and sugary drinks.They drink hot water in small amounts all through the day.
3. They get plenty of rest, enough sleep. They believe in early to bed and early to rise. They do not use an alarm clock.
4. They are less stressed out.They listen to whole some soft music, classics. They read wholesome books. They are very affectionate. They like to hug. They commit reckless acts of kindness. Even if not reciprocated, they never tire of being kind, they continue their recklessness even toward total strangers. They do not hold grudges. They forgive easily. They are here on Earth to serve, to help, and unconsciously they will be doing good deeds. They believe in not harming anything or any one.
5. They fast, they like to fast. It may be religious, it may be for health. It may be water fast, fruit fast, news fast, or a TV fast.
6. They do not smoke. They do not do drugs. They either abstain from alcohol or drink only socially and in moderation.
7. They exercise. They walk, do yoga, tai chi. Their body is flexible and so is their mind.
8. They do Pranayama.
9. They use aromatherapy. They like nice fragrances.
10.They have pets. They love their pets. They play with them.
11. They like to garden. They like to spend time communing with nature. They watch birds, or go to the park. They have indoor plants.
12. They are wise souls who wrote good health in their blue prints before coming to this physical Earth. So they are divinely healthy.
13. They stay away from sick people especialyy children,who are toddlers. They are not in the health profession or daycare.
Thank you Deepak for giving me the opportunity to comment. God bless.
Hi Deepak, I forgot the most important reason people stay healthy. They pray, they meditate. These acts of communing with the divine rejuvenate their immune system so that even if they are in the midst of sick toddlers all day they stay healthy.Even if they are nursing the poor lepers of Calcutta, they remain in good health. A calm mind which is like a deep crystal clear lake is such a wonderful thing to have. Thank you.
Dear Deepak,
As someone who never gets sick, I should probably refrain for commenting on this article.Then again, this subject matter is irresistible to me.
Health consciousness has been on my mind during my whole life. Wonderful teachers like you, Louise Hay, and Caroline Myss (among many ohters that I respect) have reminded me of what I've always felt intuitively. Years ago, I discovered, for example, that by concentrating on a point between my eyebrows I could stop an allergy attacks or reduce fever. That was before Ayurveda made it possible for me to avoid all flu and colds, while also curing all symptoms of allergies. I used to be allergic to just about anything in my teens and twenties: dust; pollens; probably people (at least some people); and even wool.
I definitely believe that we can create health for ourselves (as you have affirmed in many ways). This is also my experience.
Love,
Donatella
Dear Deepak...Just surprised me a little, Twice blogging in a day! I Wonder! Nice to see the Doctor in you from now and then. Oh God! I would have loved to respond taking part by part. Not possible I reckon.
"Secondary Gain" is a very important concept Dear Deepak. I had found that in my mom at some stages. It is quite a common thing but. Eckhart tolle talks beautifully on this...close to it...in his wonderful book "Power of Now". Also there are patients who know Intuitively just before when they are leaving. How?
Maybe more later...Love..Sachin
Dona..We both were typing to Dear Deepak at the same time. two min difference in posting. Have you noticed it is taking long time for the post to go thru'? I didn't see your post when I posted mine. Hmm..great to know that sickness fears you!
I don't think I would be on your allergy list:) should be in your craving list. Just being Sweet that's all:)) Nothing to read there.
Love..Sachin
I almost forgot: I have always told my children that they didn't need to get sick to have a day off from school. I gave them permission to rest for one day, occasionally. To my surprise, they have never abused this privilege (they took off at the most 2-3 days in a school year). At the same time, they almost never got sick.
Love,
Donatella
Sachin,
I think you're right.
Love,
Donatella
Thank you Deepak. I enjoy reading this post, as your wisdom shines like a star. Love, Char
geeta: I don't "eat right" at all and i get probably no nutrients at all. I don't excersize beyond dancing around like a madwoman to bollywood songs when no one is around because its the only physical thing besides walking that doesn't make it really hard to breathe. I have a family history of virtually every illness known to man, and according to usual health thought, i should be all kinds of messed up. But, I'm not. The reasons you listed are the common thoughts of healthy living, but not always the case. I haven't been sick since i was a little kid (and before i started living conciously and with intent) and i only fit into 6 of that list. So i just wanted to point out that you don't nessesarily need to live in the traditionally healthy way, to have a balanced and healthy body. I know you weren't trying to give the all-inclusive list and were just mentioning some things, but i just wanted to add my .02 as well. :)
Love,
Ameya
Deepak & CO.--Beautiful, Beautiful, Beautiful!
What a superb post--the kind I know all Intentbloggers love from Deepak.
I am a classic example of one, who as a child, learned to employ the "secondary gain" to a most remarkable degree--by the time I made it to the US Olympic Training Center as a college rower, replete with my usual respiratory infection while going through testing, I was nicknamed the "healthiest 'sick guy'" the "stroke" (or lead rower) of our crew team ever met.
In spite of my "sickness," an on-going attention/sympathy-getter, I scored 4th overall, in those try-outs for the US National team.
Latter, when I developed on-set Type 1 diabetes nine months after the love-of-my-life left because I had become a despicably mean and petty drunk, like clockwork, the "melancholy disease" of sadness, as Louise Hay puts it so aptly, set in.
The disease itself, has been a remarkably "strict teacher" about every aspect of life, it's inherent worth, and has then become "my friend" for so-grounding me in ways that have forced me to look inward, and learn to take at least a modicum of responsibility for my own mind's manifestations, while simultaneously becoming aware of just how powerful is the force of our thoughts--for good or for "ill."
That is why it's "not wrong" to be "un-heal-thy," if in manifesting these patterns, we learn from the power of our own minds.
It is interesting to note that studies have been following an increasingly high incidence of infants who been born with their blood quite active as HIV-postive, and how some of their young immune systems had neutralized the virus by the age of five!
I've heard that we generally have as many as 2,000+- different viruses laying dormant in our tissue systems, particularly neural/nerve-based cells, each potentially fatal if activated into full-throttle momentum, and yet we may go an entire lifetime without any one of them every having the catalyzing and activating mechanisms trigger them into their potentially devasting capabilities--Why is that?
I've also come across material that indicates lonely, or neglected and isolated individuals, like so many elderly souls find themselves to be after society tags them as having no more to contribute, primarily because of achieving a certain societally-determined number for chronolical aging; and that sometimes these souls will manifest sickness in their bodies simply so they get some attention, maybe from a nurse who genuinely cares about her charges well-being, and that these "patients" don't want to get well--as they would then lose the contact and communication that is their only form of connecting with love's vibrations.
Just "more stuff" to consider.
Thank you Deepak--as always, another "admirer" of your many contributions to this world's evolvement, during this temporal-frame of rapidly accelerating changes. Dave
Well I haven't had to blow my nose once this year. I did encounter, I suspect, a virus and for a day or two I had achy muscles and a slight fever and felt like resting a lot and did and still worked just not as much.
That was it. I knew that all I needed to do was let my body burn it out. For all I know it could have been my own body reprogramming it's DNA and then stopping the program when it was done.
Soon as I started feeling that way I increased intake of chemicals needed by the immune system.
I also took things like Beta-1, 3-D Glucan and Lactoferrin just in case. Since it seemed to effect my stomach and intestinal tract I took Lactobacillus GG which are really advanced nano machines (other wise known as bacteria) to help out there if needed. Yes, we are surrounded by extraterrestrial nanotechnology.
I did not pull out the Thymic Protein A, a 500-amino acid chain which fits the receptor site on the T-4 cells literally programming them to launch (having just migrated from the bone marrow, and do there stuff as master immune system coordinator and programmer, T-4 cell send instructions to the bone marrow to manufacture more of itself and other types of T-cell and has a role in the production of total while blood cell levels, red blood cells and production of the imprint CD56 natural killer cells, which also attack and destroy cancer cells, HCV/HBV and other "invaders". The key word in all this is "regulation." We are beginning to understand that the body has its own methods of keeping balance. The cause of many degenerative illnesses is increasingly viewed as a "dys-regulation" of immunity. For example, auto-immune diseases such as Lupus, Multiple Sclerosis or Arthritis are now understood to be caused by too strong an immune response of certain cells, which actually attack the body. Cancer, Chronic Fatigue syndrome, and AIDS are examples of illnesses which involve a weakened immunity. But if it got worse I would have.
So unknown to the average status quo medical doctors who are only qualified to treat symptoms of disease and not the cause of disease, the immune system has two sides which must operate in balance.
Stress can really disrupt chemical processes and the damage is really aggravated when there are shortages of that famous white powder.
Known as "The Other White Powder" Ascorbic Acid.
It has the power to transform the world because 90% of the population has a shortage of this vital chemical which must come from outside the body.
The fact that we could eliminate most disease on the planet in a couple years, and a large percentage in one year and yet it doesn’t happen tells us something. Supports Deepak’s second notion that we want to be sick and have disease because of it's benefits.
This is what one would expect of a planet of carnivores that drink flammable liquids and inhale burning leaves.
Which is why in Infinite Play the Movie earth is the number one top rated show in the Galaxy.
Quite the comedy.
Craig: If I may, I do hope you find your way into that "Bell-tower" at Gonzaga U.--we used to race them in rowing, many years ago!
I can definitely see you there--and while there, I hope you will consider these three pieces: "The Nine Faces of Christ," "The Life and Teaching of the Masters of the Far East," and/or "A Course in Miracles."
Any one of these epic masterpiece's of the greatest of human achievements will at least cause you to seriously reconsider whether Jesus actually "died on the cross," and a number of others who, "apparently," are quite alive, and considerably active in helping us along towards our own destined-achievement of these same states-of-beingness; albeit, seemingly occuring from somewhere else that is "not in this here and now," and yet they are more "here and now" than we are (as we lurk and stumble about in our past, while searchning for a different future, all in the present moment of our time!).
Intriguing "stuff" my friend, I sense you would like all that these "re-volutionary" minds account for in these most-enduring "fairy tales." Dave
I asked myself the other day observing someone using cold sore medication, and Being one of those unconditioned thinkers. What is the "purpose" of the Herpes virus and cold sores?
Why does it lie dormant until the immune system weakens, stepping into action? Is it a signaling device? Is it performing some task as a backup system?
This is based on my famous theory from 1994 that viruses are programming instruction sets. Pieces of programming code nothing more than software.
These are the questions that we need to ask.
Assume everything has a good purpose and then understand it.
You see mankind (organic life) assumes that it has created machines; the truth is it is machines that created mankind (organic life).
Of course when you understand the underlying principle you see there is no difference. between you body and your car, and that which makes your car go and that which causes you to think.
Remember you are simply a complex event with a name.
heavy sigh
Hi Deepak
Your books changed my life.Some of them i read again and again.
There is also another book that contributed immensely to the way i look at the world around me and how i feel.Its called
"YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE" by Louise L Hay
It talks about how most illnesses and disease arise out our state of mind -and how specific emotions attack various body parts and cause specific ailments. Everytime i have a headache or a knee ache i refer to that book ,do the affirmations the author reccomends & the pain goes away as if by magic.
I keep it by my bedside always. Right next to "the seven spiritual laws of success"
Hi Ameya, you are so right, it is not an all inclusive list. My little daughter who is 19 has the worst diet, she is very fit and plays very good tennis. It must be fun dancing to Bollywood music and it is very good exercise. Ameya, is it possible you wrote good health in your blue print before you came to Earth? Take care. God bless.
geeta,
I know i gave myself a whole lot of potentials to chose from once i got here. One is where i am now, but i'm aware of many others, which includes several where i could have been gone by now. I used to get sick constantly, but then I chose differently. No blueprint is set in stone, and people can always give themselves permission to start living out "higher" potentials.
Love,
Ameya
I'm by no means an expert on medical issues, but since I've suffered from various chronic problems since childhood, I think I can offer some insights..
I think state of mind certainly influences our health - eg Asthma and skin problems tend to flare up when the mind is agitated - these are psychosomatic (although not entirely) - as the condition worsens it opens the body to attack as the immunse system starts to come under pressure.
I recently started a series of yoga exercises, one of which, pranayama, if done correctly, reduces the likelyhood of catching colds - after nearly 6 months and despite one of the coldest winters on record, I haven't caught a cold as yet, and I tend to catch a really bad dose every winter - perhaps there is a physiological reason for this, brought on by the exercise, and also a level of mental stability which actually reduces the bodys susceptibity to viruses...
Hi Suchitra,
Like you I use affirmations, from Louise Hay's YCHYL, for different parts of the body and they always work. I have tought my children how to think about disease in order to prevent it and when a symptom has already appeared, I ask them to repeat the required affirmation (with amazing results).
Perhaps one day, when the majority of the world population will believe in health and prevention of disease, there will be classes that young children could attend to learn health-promoting thoughts.
Love,
Donatella
Hello Deepak and Everyone,
Sickness and health, a lot like war and peace countless reasons for both, ah..to be human, isn't it lovely!
I must admit I do get sick and what really bothers me is that I cannot take anything to relieve the symptoms (cold medicines,etc), they make me sick. I watch people down the "over the counter medicines" and wish I could, but no, I just have to suffer through the stuffed up nose, the sore throat, the hacking cough.peace ruth
gem of a post man.i was sick of your spiritual posts.this time its different
Dear Deepak; this post really resonated with me. In my 2nd year of college; the stress was immeasurable. I survived. But, at many costs of health. The stress, made a mutant bacteria come out of my body; and within months, it shut down my stomach.
I have read some books; recieved great advice, and sought spiritual councel.
Mainly, I am here to say; you could very well be correct!! I found, that I was healthy, until great stressors were put upon me. College in my 40's wasn't easy to do as a lone parent..though I did it, and with a 4.0 Grade; it came at high prices to my health.
Other problems, are from injuries(sports) or car accidents(black ice)and child poverty(disc degeneration)or, so the specialists say..
I know I cannot make my stomach come alive again; but, how can I prevent further decline? I have been working diligently on meditations and envisioning self-healing; and I have noticed a significant difference!!
I know; most of my stress; is caused by financial frustrations-worry for my(and sons) future. Try as I may; this cannot be changed much, even with all my efforts.
My Questions then is: "how do I prevent illness, when the stressors causing the illness is imminently prevelant, with financial struggling"?
I've tried just about every way possible, to change circumstances, etc. to always find myself back with the same stressors(financial)and barriers/hurdles to jump.
I've tried getting jobs, setting up a home PC designing...but, nothing works!!
What am I doing wrong, in my quest for health and well-being?
North
Why wasn’t I Deepak’s son,
or younger brother?
Why is my uncle dead from drink,
and my father lying on some crackhouse floor?
Why am I bent upon revolution,
yet with no audience to hear?
While Chomsky and Pinter make bank with the truth . . .
Why wasn’t I Deepak’s son,
or younger brother?
The people ‘out there’ have no clue as to what I am trying to say
the breath of a dying man whispering into obscurity
I thought, I thought, and yet tis all in vain
They do not see “it”; I am just a socialist ‘bitch’ who is best kicked out of the bar
I tells them I quit grad school and suffer the burning gut of hepalcy so I can spread the word,
get the truth out; and then they want to kill me for ‘the man’ himself
This burning gut I take, as if mortally pierced, outside on whiskey row
the bar-room crowd having turned on me once again
and the funniest thing is is that I have failed them all; and
They do not even know . . .
Why wasn’t I Deepak’s son,
or younger brother?
Am I just a lifeless source for the
moral improvement of a Protestant?
Am I just the bullet of somebody else’s’ gun,
waiting for the dreadful thud of death to embrace?
Am I just an embittered soul hoping to witness
the extinction of the human race?
I forget to remember that I am not
at all!
WHY AM I just a Christian ‘anarchist’ who lost his game . . .
Why wasn’t I Deepak’s son,
or younger brother?
Gruesomely funny it is when you get the wanna-be lawyers so
intellectually flustered their only recourse is to beat their chest and say
“let’s step outside man!”
Gladly, no problem! Again, the really funny thing is is that ‘my’ own drunken loser people
in the same bar are on the wanna-be lawyers side
because I am talking nonsense about loving everybody and no private property
Grateful and proud they say they are (one of the deadly sins and when I point this out they really get going . . .) to own whatever it is that they ‘own’
“Proud to be an American,” they say
Gleefully wanna-be lawmakers look on
as they turn against me
their future cannon fodder and prisoner statistic
Crucified again . . .
Why wasn’t I Deepak’s son,
or younger brother?
Why
I am filled with mixed feelings after reading these lists. What about people who have serious illnesses (like cancer) and who also have a cancer gene? I have known such people. What about people who have a serious ailment and continue to function with whatever pain they are suffering rather than trying to milk secondary gain out of the situation? I have known such people. I am well aware that there are people who say, are alcoholics, eat a terrible diet, and never succumb to any illnesses and live to a ripe old age. But doesn't a case like this point even more to the idea that that many illnesses and even longevity itself are genetic? We all know the complaining person who "has nothing better to do than get sick" and who blows every small ache or pain into a medical event that stretches on for weeks simply because they are "bored". But I think that illness is complicated--of course stress makes a person more susceptible but as I mentioned what about an alcoholic who eats a terrible diet who never has a headache or gets sick and lives to age 95? Can we explain this by saying this person had a great outlook, embraced stress management and focused on balancing their chakras? No, we cannot. I think that many things are genetic--even the chances of getting dental cavities. Otherwise how does one explain my example of the alcoholic who lives on crappy diet and lives to a ripe old age?
dulcie,
please note the fact that not everyone with cancer in their family gets cancer. The cancer gene gives one the potential, but it doesn't mean it needs to be activated. In fact, it seems like the most common cause of cancer gene activation is because people see it in their family and feel doomed. They expect to get it so they do.
it can be the soul that choses the state of the body, regardless of outlook, stress, or healing (western or eastern). If they are here to experience something, they're going to stay here to experience it in whatever shape they need to be, unless they chose something different. Our souls are not victims of anything in life. We chose our potentials for our soul before we get here.
love,
ameya
Deepak,
Thank you for submitting your article to About.com's (a New York Times Company) Carnival of Healing.
It can be found at the 34th Edition, March 25, 2006 at the following link:
http://healing.about.com/od/community/a/carnival.htm
I think you will enjoy it.
Thank you,
Brendan
Deepak I very much agree.
Also, I think the question should not be why one is not Deepak's son, but rather, why is Deepak Deepak.
Oh...Just for some new bloggers who've known me of recent, to avoid confusion I've to address this: sachin is another individual not me. I use SM in the posted column, so as to avoid the confusion. Confusion happened to me before, hence...
Thanks..Sachin
Ameya,
I definitely agree with you about people who have a cancer gene are not doomed to get that illness. I guess what inspired my post is that I have read a lot of New Age books on healing/health etc. and as I gaze around me at people it seems that these New Age books make way too many generalizations about illness. Now, some of them I can agree with. I tend to believe that some illnesses have emotional/psychological causes. But, to explain my general confusion, I will break down the last list from Dr. Chopra's article above:
"Some people get sick because they expect to."
People I know who grasp onto the slightest ache/pain and continue acting sick and projecting terrible causes onto their ache/pain never get anything real (and here I am not talking about hypochondriacs but people who really "want" to have a "diagnosable ailment".) It would seem that it would be these people who are obssessing about their discomfort (whatever its cause) who would actually develop an illness since they are so focused on it, but they never actually do.
"Some people get sick, or sicker, after they are diagnosed with a disease."
This makes sense. However, who can say in light of the fact that some diseases, once diagnosed, are treated with things that dessimate the immune system like chemo or surgery.
"Disease brings certain benefits, known as "secondary gain", which make it positive. The classic example is a child who pretends to be sick in order to gain more love and attention, but adults find secondary gains of their own, such as not having to take responsibility for their lives or finding an escape from a situation they can't cope with."
Well, there is not much I can say here except that I have known people who have serious illness or ailment who fight courageous battles to get out of bed, function and accomplish much and take care of their responsibilities despite pain, sleep loss, weakness etc. I think that this generalization is completely unfair. Normally people I have known with a serious disease/ailment continue to function despite it--they can't "put their responsibilities on hold". Usually illness complicates life. The only example I can think of where the above statement holds true is for certain men who blow every small ailment out of proportion and demand to be catered to thereby perhaps reaping that "secondary" benefit of "escaping responsibility" (but I certainly do not want to make this into a war of the sexes!)
"Some people get sick because they want to give up, or even die."
Maybe. But how can anyone prove that? It is easy to label a person a defeatist for having a certain "disease" but maybe it is just genetics or another factor we know nothing about.
"Some people have nothing better to do than to get sick."
I agree. But in my experience these types of people never "get sick" beyond the common cold and therefore this theory does not explain anything beyond the common cold.
Another way to view this whole thing is to ask "Why does a person stay healthy?" Again, I will bring up the example of the alcoholic, who eats horrible diet, who smokes and who lives to be 95 and dies of natural causes. Can their health be explained?
I cannot explain it beyond genetics. IF HEALTH CANNOT BE EXPLAINED I DO NOT UNDERSTAND HOW ILLNESS CAN BE EXPLAINED.
Certain things like the common cold, viruses, etc. I believe can be purely stress related or related to poor lifestyle lack of exercise lack of sleep poor diet. These are minor things invading a weakened immune system. If a person can live a terrible lifestyle and maintain health and live a long life then I cannot believe that poor lifestyle or negative thinking patterns can, in and of themselves, bring about illness.
The only other possibility is that I do think that possibly feeling impervious to disease maybe could help keep it away--but notice that is not tied into normally understood ideas of positive thinking or healthy lifestyle.
Sorry for my cynicism. But I have never "understood" New Age thinking about health even though I have tried to many, many times.
Aloha dulcie
Dr. Bruce Lipton has a book, The Biology of Belief, shares the importance of creating a healthy environment for our cells. He shares as a biologist when they took unhealthy cells in a Petri dish and just replace the Petri dish in a healthier environment the cells become healthier. Genetics play a small part. In recovery of alcohol putting the plug in the jug is one small part, it is making a decision that our hard drive is Love, Trust and Innocence. That decision has to be made on a daily or moment-to-moment basis. It is trusting the non-locality vs. the local.
Our subconscious is like our computer a billion times faster than our conscious. That is why we can drive the car, talk on the phone, watch where we are going etc. A lot of the programs are no longer in service to our environment and that is where we have to put back in conscious thought to change them. So I might be a third generation alcoholic but if I place myself in a environment where there is no alcohol that doesn’t mean I have changed my subconscious. I have to delete old programs that I need alcohol (genetics) to survive, so I am back to my hard drive, that I am Love, Trust and Innocence. I have to acknowledge I am on the keyboard of my computer. I have to make the decision to ask for a spontaneous remission a trillion times faster than my subconscious. I hope this makes some sense to change to the desire to grow old well. Love patty
Hi,
I really have nothing new to contribute to the comments here, but I just wanted to say thanks to Deepak and everyone else for posting your comments--I've read all of them, and they're all very informative. Thanks.
All I know is since I opened myself to this new awareness, and since I "changed" my mind and way of thinking, I have not gotten sick with a cold, flu, or allergies. I have changed other things, including some on Geeta's list, eating better, drinking more water, exercise, not smoking (again!), no alcohol (and other such poisons). Every year I'd suffer with the same respiratory illnesses over and over--but then something clicked and I decided enough was enough.
"All I know is since I opened myself to this new awareness, and since I "changed" my mind and way of thinking, I have not gotten sick with a cold, flu, or allergies... Every year I'd suffer with the same respiratory illnesses over and over--but then something clicked and I decided enough was enough."
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Dear Tiffany, (and Patty, you are a fan of C.Myss..)
I liked your post.
I am going to share what Caroline Myss has to say about healing (from Sacred Contracts). I think her message is universal. I think all of us have made that same mistatke at least once.
Love,
Donatella
"These ailments did not begin to abate until I recognized that myself had fallen prey to becoming a woundologist--someone who defines herself by bad things that have happened to her."
Yes...thank you. I feel this applies to just about everything we do and gain and lose. We have reasons, and we make things happen. This is always going to happen, us being this nexus of matter and spirit. I think it is my job to discover what signals I am sending. I am always making things happen. The goal is to do avoid unconscious renderings.
Thank you again.
Joaquín
Aloha Donatella
Mahalo for mentioning Caroline Myss. In listening to her Call to Live a Symbolic Life what you shared about woundology and what she shared is so important. It is to love those who want to kill your enviorment. I had a spiritual guru share that it is in the realm of the kingdom it is the kingdom within.
love patty
Dear fellow bloggers,
My dad was recently diagnosed with high blood pressure. He is a great guy who is always happy, loved by most and fairly active, not too overweight. His doctor has put him on a Cozaar regimen! Is that good?
Can any of you give me some advice for him? It will be greatly appreciated!
Love, Angie.
Lots of wisdom here.....
Don't forget to laugh. There was a study tracking the number of times in a day that children laugh, and how many times adults laugh. Not that I remember the actual numbers, but it was something like children laugh 100 times a day and adults laugh about four times.
If you wish to correct me on the real numbers we can have a good laugh over the state of my memory.
Angie, I am not familiar with Cozaar regimen. There is info on this on the web. I would like to tell you about my high blood pressure. High blood pressure runs in my family. My mother, sister and brother have it, as well as many ancestors. I was in my late thirties when I started having trouble with it. In 1999 I learnt Reiki 1 and Reiki 2. This is an alternative healing method. I learnt Reiki 3 in 2000. With in a couple of weeks of doing self Reiki, my blood pressure has gone back to normal. I also eat a lot of fresh fruits and fresh vegetables, preferably organic. In Reiki we do visualisation meditation, which is very relaxing. If you look up Mallika's posts, there is an entire post on Reiki, you can get info on the web too. God bless.
Very informative topic...Geeta your reiki reminded me of a little story.My 8 year old daughter had constant upper respiratory issues compounded with allergies,sinus infection and wheezing.
She has been sick since last 3-4 weeks.It has been exhausting for her and for us..Her pediatrician explained me in detail to have her do JAL-NEETI.Which is an old indian way to pour water through one nostril and it will come out from other...she told me to buy the special water neeti can from natural food stores.
I was dumbfounded,it started to come back to me.... as when i was 8 years old my father hired a swami ji...a yoga master to come and i always reluctantly performed JAL-Neeti...for my sinus etc problems...I felt life moves in circles and particularly on jal neeti it had come a full circle
Marjorie: Love the implication that the study you've drawn from aims toward illustrating regarding why it is that laughter itself is considered to be the greatest of healing agents.
Consider just one of the many reasons why Jesus said, "To enter the Kingdom of Heaven, one must become as a little child."
Could the spontaneous laughter that comes from the innocence of a child's view of this world have been one of central meanings of this saying?
In what has rightly been referred to as his most infamous discourse, heard clearly by thousands upon thousands (with no microphone or translators!), Jesus said, "Be not careless or careful, but rather as 'carefree' in your attitude"--from "The Sermon on the Mount."
This man-who-became-a-Messiah is also reputed to have been a near-constantly and supremely happy man, as well as very funny in the company of his "disciples," and childhood friends and family--often in the midst of discoursing on the most serious of human issues.
Certainly this is a virtually completed "ovelooked" characteristic of this man's life--especially by his most-ardent and self-appointed "spokespersons." Dave
...actually my mentioning of the term "immune system" reminds me how these terms rapidly become "buzz words" for a generation...the big trigger for this was AIDS - until then, people never really used the term, in fact, it would be rash to describe such a complex set of functions in this way.
Suddenly "immune system" is visualised almost as being like a singular organ in the body, which can be treated in a similar fashion - let's face it, the internal "world" is as complex and difficult to fathom as the outer "universe", and can't / should'nt be conveniently circumnavigated by terminology which is the equivalent of deciding the Earth is flat...
Dave,
My interpetation of that is that children have no sense of time in the accepted sense, and therefore experience things in a more direct way which is ultimately more meaningful..
If you can live moment by moment, and not hang onto the past or even future, which equal regret and anticipation, then you can be a little happier, but this is hard to do in a world where both are taken into account...when you are a child it doesn't matter, and days seem to stretch on endlessly in exploration and adventure.
All,
North,
Just food for thought... Detach... As long as your worry about your situation or your son's there will only be a negative feedback on you. love, Suz
Dulcie,
Health is not only a genetically mapped system that exists in our body. Think of that what exists in your body is the potential for health and illness. I do energy work and healing on individuals and I can see the potential for many things in their body but it requires many things to create illness and health. The biggest one I believe is your awareness or lack there of. The people you talk of that drink and eat crappie may not have this awareness but they do have the mind set. They do not get sick or ill because they do not believe they will. This in itself guards their body from getting ill. My grandfather always said, "I never get sick". He never did. He did not take care of his body. He just had the mind set.
Finally, my husband had cancer and both of us agree the cause of his cancer was due to work stress. We both see it so clearly. While the doctors will try to blame genetics or environmental issues. We are certain of its origin.
"All that exists within your temple, possess only the potential for manifestation." TS
All,
North,
Just food for thought... Detach... As long as your worry about your situation or your son's there will only be a negative feedback on you. love, Suz
Dulcie,
Health is not only a genetically mapped system that exists in our body. Think of that what exists in your body is the potential for health and illness. I do energy work and healing on individuals and I can see the potential for many things in their body but it requires many things to create illness and health. The biggest one I believe is your awareness or lack there of. The people you talk of that drink and eat crappie may not have this awareness but they do have the mind set. They do not get sick or ill because they do not believe they will. This in itself guards their body from getting ill. My grandfather always said, "I never get sick". He never did. He did not take care of his body. He just had the mind set.
Finally, my husband had cancer and both of us agree the cause of his cancer was due to work stress. We both see it so clearly. While the doctors will try to blame genetics or environmental issues. We are certain of its origin.
"All that exists within your temple, possess only the potential for manifestation." TS
love, Suz
Dear Angie,
I am not a medical doctor...From my yogic studies --which include the awareness of some clinical studies--I know that meditation techniques are very effective in reducing and even healing the symptoms of high blood pressure.
You could do a search on Yoga Nidra...that's the best technique I know (I regularly lead classes in it, and some of my students have hypertension..They are reporting very good results). All the student needs to do is lie horizontal on the floor and listen to the guidance from a qualified teacher.
Good luck to both you and your father.
Love,
Donatella
Dear Suzanne, thanks for your thoughts in reply to my questions. I can detach some of the time; and I do long, to become detached entirely.
Being a "worriesome" person is, in itself; self-destructive and a curse; and I can only aspire to keep trying to overcome my human frailties(as such.)
Ever forward...finding little scissors of inspiration like this blog; to severe the ties which constrict me, most undelightful.
thanks Suzanne, God Bless,
North
Hi,
Love all the comments about how to get well. I developed Mysthenia Gravis 3 years ago, an autoimunne disease. I was horrified that I could manifest such a disease and immediately set about healing it. I took out all my tapes (Deepak, Lousie l Hay and Luanne Oakes), and upped my meditation time
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I began to think about how my mind and my thoughts were programming me to have a disease and very quickly realised that I was very stressed about living in financial poverty. I had now been a lone parent with 2 children for 10 years and though I have a lot of spiritual wealth and happiness, financial poverty has brought me to tears many times. But I anaysed my thought process and realised that I had a constant battle going on about whether to continue mothering my kids and being there for them and being responsible or going out to work and making money but leaving them vulnerable on the streets while Im out. I never resolve this problem, but when I started to write a journal I found I had volumes of things to say about what I saw my role as a Mother to be and volumes on how I should go out to make some money. And still I saw no resolution.
It was then it struck me that this constant battle had become my body's programme how to operate and it was attacking my whole system. I was attacking my self for not being able to be both a mother and a father to my children, a carer and a breadwinner.
When I accepted that I am just the Mother and that the Father and breadwinner is just not there. I was then able to change my programming back to being a programme that said I am a Good Mother, and I Mother well and I fulfill my role. The fact that we are poor is not my fault it is just because we no longer have a husband/ father / earner.
My illness started then to disappear. And now 2 years later I am almost symptom free. I say almost, because the poverty does affect me and my thinking does go astray and it is only when I start to get double vision that I have to pull in the reins and check what and how I have been thinking. When I center myself and accept who I am and that I am doing my very best I again become well.
I also think that it is significant and synchronistic that when I am sick I get double vision and my bad programming is about doing a "double" role of Mothering and Fathering - my single vision returns when I accept I can only play one role.
A very good Naturopath who crossed my path during my "illness" , advised me not to accept the medical labeling of "mysthenia gravis" or any other label as he said you will remember a label all your life and will therefore expect to have it all your life or at least the label will remind you constantly of the prognosis and the possible symptons of that disease. So I just concentrated on the immune disease bit and can see more clearly that it is just a programming glitch that I can control and correct.
Hope this helps other too.
Love Gen
Dear Gen, awesome!! I noticed the same about myself; only I don't appear to be fully equipped to function fully, to detach completely as of yet.. mostly for the same reasons you mention Gen... money worries... its a life-sucking emotion; hard to severe, when under the money pressures.
Many, for the same reason you mention. >Lone Parenting, and its inherent trials, tribulations, community and social deprivations, etc...its a long list, isn't it?
Over time, I have been able to as well; severe the diagnosis of my diseases, and live already 2 years past its mortal expectation(yippee!!)
so, I too, am convinced it is "emotional-turmoil-inherent." But, how do we severe the ties which bind us to money-worry; when money-worry is always prevelant a feature in our lives?
May we both, find "the way."
North
Dear Geeta and Donatella,
Thank you both for your inspirational help.
Love, Angie!
Dear North,
thank you for the recognition ! and yes I hope we both do find the way.
I have been following the methods of manifesting financial abundance in my life for some 6 years now and have not succeeded and yet I could manifest better health. But I think that it is because most people who talk of manifesting money talk of opportunities in "work" arising that "improve" their salary - but if you have no salary or no time like a lone parent who is truely a 24/7 supervisor and caretaker it is hard to imagine money coming in any way other than a Lotto win !
I use writing, journaling every morning to empty my head of all the "internal talk" i have about what bill to pay and what meal to skip, and how to let the kids know that they cant have TV or join a dance class - when I journal all this it comes out with loads of vile and jealousy and a huge sense of injustice. But I know I have to dump it out or it will fester in my head and cause illness.
I found another way to validate myself was to compare myself with the salary earners. For example I say I work 24 hours a day 168 hours a week - while the maximum working week here is 48 hours - I live on an allowance of 180 euro a week which works out at just over 1 euro an hour - while the minimum wage is 8 euro an hour. And then I worked out that it would take 3 full time workers earning 25,000 euro a year to replace me, as they would be entitled to time off, sick leave and holiday pay. That's 75,000 a year - and I manage to do it all on 9,000 a year It may sound a bit trite but it points out the injustice clearly to me and then I know that despite the injustice of the situation I am in, I am managing to be a pretty damn good mother to my kids - and I deserve what other people have. When I am in the place of "deserving" I am at peace and it is then I can be healed at least of my physical illnesses - the financial dis-ease is still harder for me to cure.
perhaps I need to move to another blog to explore that !
Love Gen
Deep resonating with you again Gen, on all accounts! I find, financial struggling to be more difficult to bear than a disease.
At least, with a disease, it is oft curable; with financial strains, its different. Finance, affects every aspect of one's life, and I just wasn't born a "Charles Ingalls" girl!!
But, ultimately; we both seem to have the awareness to know what we can change, and strive to do so. Being good Mom's to our chilren; is perhaps our most important job in life!! Money shouldn't have to be a factor in many respects, unfortunately; I too, get tired of always having to explain "no, we can't afford it" or- "nope, have to wait until next month for a haircut." etc...
to me, financial stress, keeps the discontent-fire burning...making it hard to detach from it.
I have dreams too, so does my son; knowing I can't "manifest" them, makes me feel failed; yet, when comparing my failure to manifest money has only proven, I am with the majority of normal people on this planet..and there is something profoundly comforting about being in a pool, with billions of others just like me! lol
North
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North,
I have been in your place or one similar. What I encourage you to do is really separate yourself from the outcome and the how to get there. Open yourself to hearing and seeing the clues along the way. Often we are so attached at how we are going to get there and thinking we need a certain amount of money. When we realize that our bounty and great fortune exists in something greater than any amount of money your bank account. I am certain that you will see this. Just as you go through this awakening your desires will shift and the ability to attain all the abundance in the world will be endless. I promise. For just ride the ride and observe the endless turns in you will find in this thing called LIFE. You will find many answers in your journey.
Love and peace, Suzanne
Ravi Swami, I agree with you that an agitated mind can bring on an attack of asthma. I have come across patients who have an attack of asthma when they are stressed out.God bless.
Andaleeb, I have seen jal neeti demonstrated. I have never tried it yet. One of these days I will. God bless.
Deepak, and bloggers, here are few more things that may help us to stay healthy. Most of the stuff I have written on this blog probably applies more to older people, and it is very general, not specific for any certain disease.
Drink green tea,either Japanese, or Chinese.Eat fresh garlic, fresh ginger.
Take 25,000 IU of mixed carotenes everyday. Take 400-800 IU of vitamin E. 200-300 mcg of selenium.Try Ashwagandha or Astragulus.
Invest in a home water purifying system. Get an air filter for your home.
Make a list of friends and acquaintances, in whose company you feel more alive and happier, and optimistic. Spend time with them. Forgive people who have hurt you. Reach out to resume connection with some one from whom you are estranged. Volunteer at a hospital or a charitable organisation.
Bring flowers home. Grow something, even in a container this spring.
I love my fellow bloggers ch, char, Richard Thomas, suchitra, ruth, craig, Ameya, Brendan McPhillips, sachin, dulcie, Tiffany, Joaquin, patty, Angie, Marjorie, Andaleeb, Dave, ravi swami, Donatella, GentheMom, North, Suzanne, and Deepak. God bless you all.
Appreciate your suggestions, Suzanne!! I find, I do tend to worry too much on "how" is it all going to unfold; rather than, just let it... gosh, what a tough string to cut!!
Dear Geeta, love is returned to you, tenfold!! : )
North
Geeta: I love "your Intentblog friends too!!!"
Hi North--I liked what Suzanne is trying to drive home about "letting go of expectations" about "how" prosperity comes to us, and what it may look like.
But....it is my sense that you are really "starting to get it," because you give it!
All forms of seeming properity are forms of love's energy; for me, the "accepting" of it is the difficulty--related to self-worth issues--but also know, the soul takes on many roles throughout it's sojourns through this world--many times, our souls purposely prevent earthly items of wealth to manifest because that "stuff" tends to distract us from specific lessons we want to learn.
That, of course, is "easy to say," and does not diminish one whit the genuine experience of the long-term anguish such as you and this beloved new voice, "GentheMom," have had to endure.
You both give voice to the agony of those 3+ billion souls we've considered, who live on $2/day or less, and the tens-of-thousands of mothers who have children that die everyday, from malnutrion-related causes.
What an incomprehensible level of collective-hopelessness and anguish that echoes from the silent soul-screams throughout the ethers, joining all the fading voices-in-agony of all those dying from war, crime, disease, etc.--or again, just the futility of hopelessness. Dave
Dear North,
It can be felt - within your own being - and it is powerful, that illness of the body, does not Define the spirit contained therein.
dear sister, embrace this Understanding, and the shackles of limitation will fall away.
It is scary, yes. What is unfamiliar seems so, because we so often define who we are, by ..... fill in the blank.... our gender, our shape, our financial footing, our religion, what kind of food we eat :)
I am holding my hand to you. If you hold on, I promise you, I will give you the energy of Healing, and set you Free.
With my deep care
and Love,
~ Kate
Dear Dave,
Oh, yes - prosperity's great wealth, is indeed the Love of Life itself, and no matter what has come before, or how many 'lives' one has to live to 'get it'. It has been and always will be, Love's gift, and forebearance of every challenge, and every Joy - that leads to Freedom.
Come and step in the Present Moment with me. I can show you a World, beyond what you have ever imagined.
Can you believe this is true?
With love,
~ Kate
Dear David, and Kate, with you both in thoughts, positive vibrations... encircling Gen... and all, needing/wanting/accepting an embrace.
North
K: The "pre-sent moment" you say?
I've got my left-foot stuck in one of Marek's religious "shit-storms" of what now appears to the past; my right-foot seems also to have found another fresh "cow paddy" to anchor into the future with--all the while the "chasm of Chinvat" between the two feet straddling this seemingly-widening abyss is.....well, I'm re-reading Markek's list to find which avenue of religious persuasion is most appropriate for some quick re-manifestating at this point!
Your timing continues to make me wonder if you aren't some sort of cyber-P.I. for my friend Patzi!!! Amazing timing K.
If I find my way back/forward--or just levitating over "the chasm"--into the present moment, and am still in this "here and now," I'll be capable of believing anything is true--especially the Truth!
Thanks for the thoughts from both you and North--Dave
Dave,
You make me smile!
Come closer,
imagine stepping forward in time,
and finding
you have changed your past completely.
This can be done.
Take my hand,
hold tight,
I will Show You.
With love,
~ Kate
K: You sound like the school I was at last fall, the one from "What the Bleep...."; the second retreat was called "The Future Now," and had all of these advanced students working on exercises about "apporting," materializing stuff (a few actually did!), and connecting with the furture being you already are, like 10,000 years evolved into the future, the "perfect you" that already is, and bringing that energy back into "your past," this here-and-now.
Fascinating stuff--and quantum physics is certainly bearing it all out, in the same way Deepak is so active in opening the windows-of-perception to seeing and making real these same truths of quantum realities--it is utterly practical and real, however slow I am personally, in grasping all of it's unlimited meaning. Dave
K,
That is beautiful... Oh I relish in the day when all can taste and relish in what you have said.
Dave,
You are there---as I told North--- let go it is so much more fun. Now in my life I spend more time observing and shifting realities than I do stuck in what we all percieve as the here and now.
PS- where did you take that course? I love quantum mechanics and physics.
Love to all of you!
Suzanne
Hi all,
I bless this technology that allows me to connect to all of you and sense your wonderful love, warmth and compassion. Before I had a computer I did try to connect up with the minds of others souls and to the Universe and God with the help of Deepaks wonderful insights into the Quantum world and it is wonderful to see how we are all connected but I have to say that this technology though infinitely inferior to the human mind has given me a wonderful sense of "feeling" your "presence" through my computer monitor. Its like talking to angels !
Thank you all - with love Gen
Suzanne: That course is at a place called "Ramtha's School of Enlightenment," in Yelm, Washington.
Three of the veteran students of "RSE" were the ones who made the above-referenced movie, with their second one, "Down the Rabbit Hole" just hitting theaters in the U.S.
One of their students, a woman who went back to formal schooling for some scientific studies, just spoke at a convention of NASA scientists in New Mexico--about quantum realities!
She is currently drawing in donations to set up an incredible lab for some high-tech quantum experimenation, near RSE--her name is Diane.
So much of what Deepak presents worldwide on these topics is quite respected and very much in concert with what is presented at this school--his books are an intergral part of this school's bookstore.....
....in other words, Deepak and Wayne Dyer are still the most ubiquitous Self-Help/New-Age-Guru/Whatever-you-want-to-categorize-them-as "Mo-Fo's" I've ever come across--Deepak has a great interview with the website of the "WhatTheBleep...." website.
This "Quintessential School of the Mind" is living verification that what the ancient mystery schools and modern quantum physics are both saying is true--as Jeshua, Joseph-bar-Joseph, so aptly put it in his own words, as he was himself rising in the most incredible-of-resurrections ever recorded in the annals of human history, herein given from "The Nine Faces of Christ": "For man could never be free until the sciences of Egypt's Osiris were married with the slpendor-in-lowliness of China's Tao, until the philosophy of Aristotle was wedded to the beliefs and doctrines of Plato".....
.....(page 369 of that self-same text--also available from RSE's bookstore)--it's earthly author, Eugene Whitworth, who has been a guest speaker at RSE in previous years, and one who just "crossed over" the day after the devasting Tsunami that swept throughout the Indian Ocean region, at the age of 93. (During a private session with Dr. Whitworth from 1999, he gave me permission to quote from that book, sooooo.....I do!).
There are many who expressed an interest in seeing Deepak re-direct his considerable energies towards the goal of installing him into a high-place in the American government.
That may effect results for millions, but what he does now affects tens-of-millions, and everywhere, and in everyplace.
It is my distinct sense that this would be a waste of "divine talent," although such a move would still effect great change--it would be trying to change the system from the outside.
The much greater change, the one we are all "hoping for," is already in motion; it is a grass-roots ground-swell of such unbelievable magnitude that is nearly impossible for any one mind to grasp it's capacity for total transformation; at least from "this side" of the fulcrum of critical-mass that will, in the next 7-21 years, have so altered the earthly stage as we still know it to be, that it will be veritably unrecognizable from our current perspective of what the future will look like.
To my way of thinking, the likes of Deepak and Wayne Dyer, just to name a few of the greater forces that are catalysts for these world-altering changes, which includes everyone who even remotely "tunes into" the inner-changes that are occuring, one-by-one, and for every mind-and-heart that even touches the hem-of-the-garment of their magnificent teachings of greater truths; and it is these inner-transformations that are, in actuality, bringing about the outer-changes that we so desperately long for.
Will these changes be "in time" for us to participate in--and see the world that "Peace Is the Way" maps out the route toward realizing?
Where else, and "when else," would these changes pertain to--if not our beloved "here-and-now!"
Thanks to anybody who continues to have the patience for my long-winded ramblings--maybe I'm part of your "karmic lessons" in further developing patience.
Ponder then, the meaning given by the saying: Infinite patience produces immediate results! Dave
Could karma or past-life influence be a predisposing factor for certain types of illness?
Dear Ameya and Dulcie,
First Ameya. Congratulations on having a good attitude about health and keeping in good health. I totally agree with you that one's states of mind has a big impact on one's health. One of the advantages of being young like you are (as in a teenager, correct me if I am wrong) you enjoy a sense of invincibility. However, the effects of a bad diet take time to show up in one's body. The toxins one pumps into the body when one consumes unnecessary junk like soda, preservatives, pesticides accumulate in the body. We all go through emotional ups and downs. We are all susceptible the environmental factors. At the time when the illness strikes, having a good balanced diet, attitude and exercise regimen helps to fight the worst effects of illness, rather than suffer lasting damage.
Dulcie, the genetic factor has been overplayed. It has become a bogie for the drug companies to ride on so that they can discover more drugs that they can inject in us and reap even more money. Statistics lie and statistics lie very badly when it comes to modern medicine. The problem lies in the way medical research is conducted. When you take a bunch of individuals who suffer from, say heart disease, and look for a common genetic factor, you will find one. At the last count there are some 30,000 known genes and we don't even know what the so-called "junk" DNA does. If you know some mathematics, it is beyond the pale of even the most powerful super computers today to handle equations of 30,000 variables. So I would say we have some ways to go before we can definitively say what combination of genes cause what, leave alone how to fix them.
Medical research is mainly concentrated on finding new drugs and new expensive procedures, not necessarily keeping a person healthy. If the government invests some money in holistic research, even a fraction of the money that's poured into defence (should I say offence?), I am sure we will find ways to keep our population lot healthier. But defence money goes to real companies with fatcats, where as national health has no real benefactors save the common man. Drug companies will never invest in research that develops preventive methods. That's why I believe health (and education) should be strictly a government function.
Regards,
Ravi Kulkarni
PS: Have you noticed we all have a genetic susceptibility to death.
Dear Ravi, I agree with what you say... genetic diseases are overplayed by the synthetic drug manufacturing "companies" and by doctors/specialists, giving them! We are their marketing-cash-cows.
I found, when I took all the drugs my docs/specialists gave me for atrophic gastritis and arthritis, etc. I was sicker than the diseases made me feel(97-2001). I did that, for a few years, before it dawned on me to go cold-turkey off everything, except stomach pills(need, to eat)
Now, five years later, I feel better, have more energy, than I've had since 99!! I walk a lot, and other than fatigue and aches and pains, I am far better off without their medicines than I was, on them!!
One, must truly, research into the necessity of any drug given them, including antibiotics(maybe especially) and their long-term effects on body/mind/spirit and other essential organs!!
Drugs these days, are given so liberally and without proper follow-up; many people imho are becoming victims, to synthetic drug-induced diseases!! (there is a name for it, I forget it right now, though-it's used in my medical document against my doctors)
I developed chronic fatigue syndrome by 2002; and one of the specialists on it; told me it was due in large part; to the drugs the docs gave me, and over-use of antibiotics. I have a low immune system now, and prone to lung ailments. My skin is sensitive, my muscles always hurt.
Though, we walk though life, putting our lives in doctors hands.... question every minute detail....our life really IS, in our hands too.
I shudder to think the condition I would be in; should I have stayed on their pills-regime!! There is NO cure, for atrophic-gastritis, so why am I taking all that chit, I said to myself one day!?
I could never take pain medications; as I get real sick to my stomach; so I never had a prob with that.. but, I know personally, many people addicted to pain meds...who's lives are becoming destroyed by the drugs-symptoms!! but, they won't listen to me!! : ( I've helped a few ppl off pain meds... there is a lot of pain we can live with; a pill just makes most pains worse, with inherent dependancy, which changes mood-swings, sleep, eating, etc.
Docs want me to go on a morphine-patch for my back/neck/arm/stomach, when they are real bad; but, I refuse!! One day, I won't be able to say no... so for now, I will, while I can!
and, in the meantime; my positive outlook about the ailments has shifted dramaticly; and I have noticed I have already surpassed one death-door-diagnosis by 2 years(wink)... and nothing I like more, than to prove my specialists "wrong" in that regard : ) and I owe it all to love of life, and the will to live, without the disease!!
North
"Hope this helps other too."
Posted by: GenTheMom
Dear Gen,
Those were amazing insights.
Thanks for sharing.
Love,
Donatella
David,
Thank you for all the information..
North,
If you are up for it ask all the Reiki and energy healers on this site to give you a healing. I would be happy to help.
Love,
Suzanne
North, thanks. Here is a prayer I like.God bless you.
"Dear God, hold me in Your hands. Stroke away all the pain that resides in my mind, body, and soul. Send Your everlasting energy to heal all my ailments. Send Your angels to comfort me. I ask that the archetypes encase my pain and alleviate all suffering. Please change my blue print and send a miracle. Thank You."
Kate, how are you?
David, I like your ramblings.
Geeta, lovely prayer, thankyou--I hope this prayer is heard-especially, the taking away the pain, and changing my blueprint!!
Thanks Suzanne, send a-way some reiki. : )
Have been keeping Gotham in my thoughts, for his knee surgery recovery ...as well as Sudha, during her chemo treatments.
Love, North
Donatella,
From your posts, I inferred that you might have some experience with Ayurvedic treatments.
Do you know of any good Ayurvedic practictioners in the Greater Cleveland area?
Appreciate your thoughts and recommendations.
Love your posts,
-Thanks
Hari
Dearest Geeta,
Your warm voice always finds its way to me!
Thank you for sharing the pearls of insights, and your experience in the healing Words of images and energy. No greater gift can we give to another, than the purity of healing intentions for mind and body, and the greatest gift, Love.
To North, it is true as Geeta mentions, that words and intention for healing have a kind of Power, that is seeming mystical in nature.
I too, send always my care and healing thoughts to add to others, to surround you.
Shall I bring more logs to the campsite?
with love,
~ Kate
Toss a log on the fire, Kate...
I'll bring a special copper pipe; which I drilled holes into it; then, I insert a cut piece of garden hose into the pipe. Then, toss it into the fire, for a magical showcase of colours! : )
No, it doesn't explode; eeek! it just gives off real pretty bright colours, doesn't last too long; but, long enough to see the magic!
North
Hi North,
We are in luck! I have made wood chopping a hobby, and I have plenty of logs to bring.
What say you, we dance with the flames tonight! And all impurities will burn away.
Geeta has graciously extended our campsite stay! dear Geeta.
I have made a new batch of brownies. And Divya has created a yogurt and rice dish, that sounds delicious.
~ Kate
Kate, your company is so soothing, your words are full of magic, your imagination is contagious. please stay in WV longer. We are having much better weather. Did you all see the beautiful cherry blossoms on the Kanawha Blvd in Charleston? Those brownies are so yum.
North I loved the beautiful colors of the copper pipe. I am glad you liked the prayer. The author is Sylvia Brown. I am a firm believer of affirmations. we are co-creators of our destiny. God bless.
David, we are all waiting for your stories.
Divya, the yoghurt rice is so delicious.
Let us dance to the flames!
Hi Geeta Jayaram: I say your full name sometimes because I like the sing-song it's pronounciation brings in my head!
I had to remember that I'm on Deepak's post about why we engage illness into our lives, instead of Pallavi's post about writing!
I was just digging up some of my literature and writing books from school to try and recall the name of a writer I very much liked--his name is William Carlos Williams--if I am not mistaken, he was a doctor also, who would write in several genres, like poetry and short stories, while in between seeing patients--he was soooo.....good as a multi-talented writer, that several of my books use his work for a broad range of teaching examples.
Sooooo....I have to disagree with you that you're just a "Baby-Doc," people love the things you write about, and from my perspective, your writing skills have grown by leaps-and-bounds since I first read your delightful posts from last summer--soooo.....how about one of your stories now, "Baby-Doc?" Dave
great posts all...
I've come to the understanding that all disease is spiritual in nature. Essential oils, for the most part, are all antiseptics - and they have high rates of vibration energetically speaking. Not incidentally, they've been used for healing for 1000's of years with a recent re-kindling of pop-culture interest it seems.
Disease causing germs cannot live in environments with high vibrations. A person who is negative and has low vibrational thoughts is more susceptible to disease than one who is uplifted and positive - simply b/c they are providing a great environment for disease to grow. Likewise, when the body is healing itself, these vibrations also have the same effect.
Musical & thought vibration can also have an effect on microcosm order. A japanese doctor studied the effects of music & thoughts. He clearly showed via microscope photos, that water would freeze differently based on the info it receives. It makes since when you think about it. It could be reasoned that Harmonic Resonance is the cause for our cells to stick together and so must play a major part in our overall health.
Light, Sound, and heat are all different "sections" of the same vibrational spectrum, so in varying ways, they all can produce good or ill results based on application.
I'd also like to suggest that Archangel Raphael can be called upon to help your body help itself. I have started doing this over the last year, with great benefits. There are books on it.
I had a recent Brown Recluse bite on my leg, and after 36 hours of doing nothing with it ( thought it was just a regular spider bite ), my leg had swollen up and a large white head appeared on my shin. Knowing what that meant, I put Basil & Lavendar oils on the bite and prayed for Raphael to heal me and trusted it would be done. The swelling and itchiness was gone the next morning ( 8 hours ) and within 2 days the hole was filled in and the scab was starting to fall away. ANYONE who knows what a brown recluse will do to you knows this is nothing short of a "miracle"! :)
More Info:
http://www.shiftingfrequencies.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=sf&Category_Code=vew
http://www.cymatics.org.uk/articles/symphony-sound-and-vibration2.html
http://www.floweressencemagazine.com/nov05/emotowater.html
Why People Get Sick?
one of the reason may be reading too much Spiritual crap from looney librals like you...
David, thank you. One day I was getting ready to draw blood from a patient. I asked the medical assistant who was helping me if the wayne(vein) looked good enough to stick, as kids have tiny veins.After I was done the mother asked the medical assistant to translate everything I said, especially about the wayne!!
That afternoon I called a speech therapist and asked her to teach me to speak English. She asked me to read a page of a magazine. She found a hundred faults with my pronunciation. I used to think my problem was substituting w to v some times.Oh no it was much worse!! She taught me how to pronounce "thank you", West Virginia, Yellow, and many other words that I do not remember.She gave me 3 pages of home work!!
The puzzling thing is inspite of the fact that they had no clue what I was saying, I have had more patients than I can manage. I know I am bragging, but it is true.
David, thank you for encouraging me to write. I am addicted to this blog. I must write and talk to all my favorite friends. God bless.
Kate, North, all other friends who have come to the camp, I have brought Gulab Jamun, an Indian sweet that tastes like a sweet ball of pancake in yummy syrup with cardmom and saffron as spices. So come over, we have a beautiful fire, thanks to Kate, North is going put some copper tubes in the fire. Let us all sit around the fire and tell stories, sing songs, and crack jokes and watch the copper tubes in their splendor.
What a lovely night; northern lights dance, just for us...
I have made jello icecream!!
1 pkg. jello
1 cup boiling water
disolve jello crystals in boiled water
add two cups of vanilla icecream!!
mash with potatoe masher or fork until blended.
re-freeze an hour or so..and enjoy jello icecream flavours!!
North
Dear Geeta and North,
Your delcious meal, and wonderful ambiance as we have shared this time together, and the stories and laughter, makes me want to linger at the campsite!
Soon I must go, but I am carrying you close in my thoughts, and wherever my travels take me, so shall you be also!
With love,
~ Kate
you guys get sick a lot because you guys believe in buddhaism.
I get sick a lot, b/c of finance-deficiency, and the strife it causes the human psyche.
I get sick a lot, b/c I've had one hell-of-a rough life since birth..and well; think about it, it's not that easy to change half-a-hundred years of it, overnight.
I get sick a lot, b/c my son has one kidney functioning at 70%! Today, at age: 17; we visited a heart specialist. Today; my son learned his condition is serious; and has been seriously mal-lacking medical assessments. Today, we learned, my son was definately mis-diagnosed as an infant-age: 13 resulting in his atrophy of a left kidney and draining his right kidney, down to 70%(they couldn't fuckin' deny it; I got the document!!. His heart beats too fast; he can't gain weight!!
My son embarks for college this summer; I worry if he'll take care of himself properly; if he had two healthy kidney's I wouldn't be worrying about him; he'll be almost 400 miles from home! well, and my income will automatically decline by almost $700 dollars a month in July/August, that's a definate!
I have an atrophic stomach; glaucoma(tunnel vision)arthritis everywhere; and a dictionary-necessary assortment of other ailments; mostly caused by the above...
Those, are reasons why I get sick!
I don't get sick, b/c I hate life.
I don't get sick, b/c I have child-hood lasting hang-ups.
I don't get sick, b/c I am a mis-fit, or dysfunctional-emotional.
I don't get sick, b/c I love Jesus, believe in God; and my fellow beings(as equals.)
I don't get sick b/c of bad karma!
I get sick, because of money-woes and the health condition of my son, and of my atrophic stomach; and the possibility of going blind at any given moment.
All these conditions began when the money woes began.
So what, if "we" caused them with stress/anxiety?
who would't react to being slung into a poverty reality without a fight, or a sigh; who wouldn't feel angry; when your child is mis-diagnosed causing a kidney to whither into a prune-size, nobody helps, nobody listens, nobody cares enough; until this doctor Butoo we got today(God Bless his soul; he was outraged too!!)
We need God; to help us "get our doctors" whom mis-diagnosed both of us; causing loss of organs to us both!!
But Noooo, I"m expected to be happy, and forget about it; while enduring financial burdens, deprivations and bankruptcy!! Ooh noo, but I am expected to laugh it off; wear a helmet; make lemonade. Nooo, again; I am expected to believe, believe, until I heave; and give it all to God...
well, here ya go, God!! It's all yours...
when the rent-man comes for his five hundred; I'll send him to you;
when the grocery cupboard runs bare; I'll tell the grocery store to bill you the $370 a month grocery.
when I pay my cab-bills per month, $60-$100 a month; when weather is bad, my back or foot is bad; hospital appts(today, cost me $14); well, I'll tell them too; to send YOU the bill God; because you know what? YOU really ARE bigger than me;
and well, as you can see, me and my son; just can't handle the chit ya give us; with grace, elegance, nor non-drama; b/c well, we're like that...your reflections that is...and so, well, we give ourselves and our crappy lives to you now God; because, well; you made us right; and we give ourselves"back to you" on the "return if not satisfied, policy..."
My rant for the month... no appologies this time for it either; b/c I"m mad as hell at doctors, and their blundering the lives of my son and me; while they live in their mansions...off of our misies they caused with mis-diagnosis.
I guess, my sons kidney(atrophic), and my stomach(atrophic) and reproductive organs(removed); aren't worth a dime, or God's immediate attention?
what does that, tell us; exactly? we can be saved; but, no-one is willing to save us...
tragic!
North
Wasn't it Louis Pasteur who said that it wasn't the germ, it was the terrain?
You go North!
North: Good girl!
No apologies!
Be mad girl, it's honest!
And maybe, just maybe....you don't need "savin'," and you're being exactly who you need to be right now--and that's "Honestly Angry, without Apology!" Dave
Hey North, I agree with David ( he is a wise soul), righteous anger is good. Go ahead and write it all out. It needs to come out and then close your eyes, take a few cleansing breaths, I am sending that love you sent me, a hundred times back , let that love surround you, and then let the love of the holy spirit embrace you and soothe you and make you feel much much calmer, serene and loved, and nurtured.Keep breathing...slowly gently keeping your eyes closed, see if you can ground yourself, watch your breath, see your stomach moving forwards and back, keep watching your breath as long as you can.
Here is another prayer, "Dear Father God, my son and I ask that your wings of protection come around us like a cocoon of peace. We ask that this gigantic light that emits from Your Love descend upon us and protect us from all darkness, enemies, adversity, and sickness. We ask that the Christ-consciousness walk before us as a protective shield. "
God bless.
Dear David, Geeta, Craig...thanks for not being bothered by my anger & frustration(blush) I guess I shouldn't have come in to post, right after the doc's appointments..but when things come to your kids; it's hard not to feel the hard-impact!!
Geeta, thanks so much for the prayers of protection and peace..much appreciated.
North
Dear North,
Has your son had his thyroid checked? I had a problem with fast heart rate a few years back, and none of the heart doctors could tell me what was wrong. I went online and researched my symptoms and kept coming up with Thyroid. So I went and had it checked myself. My TSH (thyroid stimulating hormone) was 0, which meant I had hyperthyroidism. The thyroid produces hormones for 1 month in advance so even you begin medicine it takes 1 month for the symptoms to go away. I used 10 mg beta blocker every day for the first month to slow my heart while taking 30 mg of NeoMercazole, ( an anti thyroid agent) after the first month I stopped the beta blockers, and continued the anti thyroid agent.
I don’t know if this is why your son’s heart is beating fast North, but a simple blood test for thyroid can tell. If he hasn’t had a test yet, check it out.
I was also hoping that with all the publicity and offers of work I though you were getting, that your financial situation had improved somewhat. I guess that hasn’t happened. I appeal again to everyone to order some work from, or send some cash to North.
To your Love and Honor,
Stan
Dear Stan,
How is your wife? Have you found the Ayurvedic doctor that you were looking for?
Dear North,
Thinking of you also.
Love,
Donatella
Dear Donatella,
My wife is much better. Thanks so much for asking. She has been taking several ayurvedic herbs, and is getting more rest and doing more exercise. Her heart beat is back to almost normal thank God.
Kind Regards,
Stan
Stan: Excellent news about your wife--what does she feel is "working the magic?" Dave
David,
A loving Husband, with an iron hand in a velvet glove, riding herd on 4 wild kids, while presauding her to let go of her worries, go to bed early, drink lots of water, exercise, and breath deeply. Oh and lets not forget or discount, all the prayers and good vibes, and advise from the heavy weights at Intentblog.
Thanks a lot,
Stan
Dear Stan, very thoughtful of you but, things will work out on their own; nobody sent money; and the only job I got, is a cover design, the other is a volunteer job, and I feel quite honoured doing both! IF God wanted my son and I to have life-improvements, God will provide them somehow, someday?
Yes, he's being checked for thyroid, and will be undergoing many tests on the 12th and the 20th. We argued about it a little all weekend; as just like any other kid; he hates going through this stuff, and he's letting me know it!! I don't blame him, but he also realize, he will have to go for regular assessments annually for life.
He's been tested for thyroid before; and it was negative(thank God.) At the end of the month; he'll be hooked up to a heart monitor for 2 weeks; he's fighting me on that real bad; so kinda frustrating here!!
Basicly, his heart is fast, but sounds normal. It's the condition of his 70% kidney, that is the seriousness; that has me worried; he can't afford to lose one more pound!! I can't afford to lose more sleep! lol Cabs up to the hospital are expensive, we have NO bus's here, so transportation costs become a huge crunch monthly!
It is so difficult to let it all go, and let God.. I don't know "how" to do that entirely.
I am a worrier; always have been; looks like I always will be.
Stan, glad to hear your wife is fairing much better!! : )
Thanks for your kind thoughts, everyone.. I'm trying to let my worries go but they don't seem to want to severe..Thursday, I found out too; that my son's special diet allowance was cut-off in February!! Mine was reinstated, his cutoff!! Now, I have to go through the process of re-appeal; it's life/energy-draining to say the least; and I am out that money this month, no matter what...so this is "how & why" things keep me down...and aggravate my illness's.
Other than all this; I haven't cracked yet(smiles.)
North
This is awesome!! Just got off line; and had a message on my phone!! Disability has a checque for me, for my son's $67 dollar a month special diet allowance!! My diet allowance is re-granted!!wooHooo,, they agreed to carry it over; and I have to re-apply for my sons still; but, they have this months allowance, so I am so pleased about this; thanks for the prayers, everyone; I'm sure, in large part; it happened because of the prayers for us!! God Bless, each of you!!
North
Just to expand...I am not too comfortable with accepting cash donations actually. I do not want anyone thinking that this is what I am hoping for from INtent..I am uncomfortable with this. I been here since summer; and I am just not one to accept charity.
I only wish to show people what it is like, living with so many chronic disease; with having a child, so misdiagnosed, it cost him a kidney, and 30% of his other one-on and on!
I wanted people to hear the silent tears, the frustrations, the anger, the resentment of circumstances and constant pain, fatigue, stress, worry and anxiety. The fears, from a childs perspective from my son..
I was hoping; if people could see what it is like; they may grow more compassionate and loving towards someone suffering...more patient and tolerant?
Regardless of whether we "caused" these ailments or not is not even so much, "important" what is important, is how to reverse the effects? In our cases, atrophy is permanent.
Cinda was right; I accepted help 2 years ago(3rd move, robbed by movers) and it backfired, bigtime!! My help, was cursed or something, but someone got upset about it, and reported it, not just to disability, but to Canada Customs!! Can you believe that? yeah, true story.
I was raked through hell and back; but, because I claim everything, even reported getting the 2nd hand clothes/pots/pans stolen, replaced from donations; I was cleared; but, the hell was unmeasurable, because to me, that "gift of love and hope" became a nightmare. WE lost a lot of stuff, clothes, I had NO choice but, to accept the clothes!! geez!
First time I ever accepted "charity" and it backfired like that, just for 2nd hand clothes that were stolen(reported), and pots/pans, and a few hundred bucks!!
I guess, someone figured I'd be getting thousands, or millions; and couldn't handle that happening for us, and boy; whatever curse they gave, didn't "win" but sure broke my heart and severed my trust to "hope" profoundly.
But, it just about cost me my disability income; I got quite ill from the stress of that event. I can't risk that happening again... so, I must in all good self-preservation reasons, decline; not only to protect ME< but, to protect Intent..I am not a beggar...just a Momma with a full plate; tired and longs for a holiday, or a rest..not looking for financial rescue...emotional rescue(as the MickJ would say), is nice with your prayers...
So, thanks anyway Stan-it is a nice dream; but, I dreampt that dream, it came true; but, with a nightmare built in. No repeats necessary, I learned "that lesson."
North
North: I very much enjoyed reading your recent posts here--I felt very much like Stan, "Our friend just needs some cashola!"
I'm in what seems like one of the longer life-reveiws I can remember, for some time now--almost a year, I think--and it is a time where one "is in the world still, but not of it."
It is a deep "soul-resting" kind of thing, and if it wasn't for Patzi's grounding "love and friendship," I feel like I would've just stopped taking insulin and eating altogether at some point last summer; as both had become such a burden to the freedom the soul longs for, while trying to maintain an earthly apt. (physical body) when all you want to do is "be out of the body," roaming free.
But now, I'm starting to genuinely feel rested again, like the weight and baggage of the "past of this life--a 'past life,'" is beginning to loosen and slough off--and I can already "observe" how different my view of being here is becoming.
In other words, North, it is very much like the "soul cocoon" experience Deepak described in his early post on "Reincarnation," which I loved the description of.
I spent a lot of time, since Stan first mentioned getting you some cash, pondering the various tax consequences of trying to establish a pool-fund, and then moving it legally through intra-national borders; especially without "hurting" you by receiving it.
You have described first-hand the penalities that come from "donations" that can get you get off from the bread-and-butter subsistence incomes you've worked with, let alone the medical consequences to you and your son, were you declared to be defrauding your gov't of "funds you didn't genuinely warrant"--such a trap to be caught in--"damned if you do, damned if you don't," and with gov't agencies, "guilty--till proven innocent."
That is the biggest cost, the emotional plight you've described from the hell that sets in once you come under the spotlight, the scrutiny of some petty entity that wants to starve you off the planet--as you've become all to familiar with.
Your courage in continuing on through the adversity, so to speak, even prompted my lazy butt to want to do "readings" at a blistering pace again, and have whatever was generated just sent directly to this idea of a fund--maybe in time, as my energy is still working it's way through that "soul cocoon"--I've learned much about the process, but more from studying about butterflies, than even from Spiritual Teachers who discourse on the subject!
I do want you to know, that some of your dearest friends and admirers, have been watching out for your best interests, and concurred that you may feel it an insult to receive what you described as "charity"--to my way of thinking, nothing could be further from the truth, that you and your son are charity cases--and certainly Stan does not see you as anything but a "sister" whose "Piggy Bank" was in need of replenishing, after being depleted, so "others" would have more.
I wanted to end by saying that one of the images I loved most, along the journey you have shared with us at Intentblog, is the one where your son (in the fall of last year) was heading out with his buddies to go skateboarding one afternoon after school, I think!?
I watched a quick "news bleep" yesterday that was about a study done regarding teenagers, and the sedentary lifestyle that has so paralyzed the development of so many; visibly so by even their early teenage years.
One of the characteristic interests of that age group, that was identified as one of the very healthiest activities that were engaged in by those in the second group; sedentary vs. healthy/active/participatory, was an incredible "markedness" toward going skateboarding with their friends!
The researchers were equally as surprised by this factor, since they were looking at things like "quality time with family activities," family profiles etc.--and I thought of Lee with a smile!!!
He's got a mother who makes sure there are always chocolate-chip cookies for him and his friends--and I think Lee is much healthier in truth, than some of his medical tests would reveal him to be; so no wonder he doesn't want those two weeks of "heart monitoring," he'd rather be out skateboarding without anything/anyone "judging and monitoring" whether he is healthy enough to be doing so.
Thanks for continuing to share North your "true intentions" and delights in life--and I send a special "packet of energy" for Lee, and his "All-American, All-Canadian Heart," a grand young Spirit-of-the-"North"-Land. Dave
Dear David, wonderfully, touching letter, David..I am in awe, at the compassion you and Stan hold, and so many others here at Intent.
Yes, it is a sticky situation-a real Catch-22; and certainly yes, being burnt for accepting charity of 2nd hand clothes for the first time in my life; and having it go so sour; was an event/experience, I cannot fully express. It deeply wounded something in me. I felt like a mouse, that was given cheese; but, it was surrounded with an invizible mouse trap!
But, I can't go on believing I can work 10 hours a day at the PC either. Sure, I am sitting, but it's so stressful on the back, neck, shoulders..it's like, there is nothing I can do..that doesn't hurt! lol
That is the feeling of helplessness I feel..loss of abilities to be normal.(whatever normal is.)
My son loves boarding; but, his board is shot; so doubt he'll be boarding this year; with college coming; mama just can't get him another(crazy insane expensive) Me and his Dad just split on $90 worth of graduation pics of our son last w
Read some of the comments on Kavita's last post, and you may discover another reason