The Man
Rahul Bose - May 29, 2006
It took evolution 500 years to move us from Neanderthal Man to Rennaisance Man. And only five years from New Age Man to Metrosexual Man to Retrosexual Man to Thinking Man. First we were informed it’s cool to be in touch with your feelings, then it’s like tooo New Age. Next,
it’s a total must you groom yourself, then it’s like just not sexy – you need to be a little rough around the edges. Finally, caring for women is like, duh, of course!, but suddenly you hear female voices whisper that there’s nothing like a bit of a Cave Man.
Anthropologists, sociologists, psychiatrists are unanimous in their opinion that modern man has never had it so confusing. But, outside of these GQ-fuelled trends, the truth is, men are a pretty confused lot from the time they are boys. How many of us were told not to cry because it meant we were sissies.? Sissy became the greatest sin of all. The greatest affront to your Masculinity. And there we have it. The M word. The crux of it all. The monkey on every man’s back. That we try shaking off with the Men Commandments. I don’t cry. I don’t fear the dark. I will build my muscles. I will never take an English Elocution class. I will never read ‘Bridges of Madison County’. I must love adventure sport. I can hold my liquor. I love fast cars. And god help me if I am gay.
So, past the proclamations of the New Man by fashion magazines, pop sociologists, faux feminists and other assorted arbiters of the male zeitgeist, what should today’s man aspire to be? For that we have only to take a generational look at the boy child’s role models to understand, as an adult, how much he has to undo before he can actually start being comfortable in his own skin. Half a century ago it was Superman with his near-invincible powers. His Clark Kent avatar told boys that while they are all Clark Kents, they have it in them to be Supermen. They have it in them to fight injustice with a mix of muscles and superpower. (Did we ever ask why, with x-ray vision, super breath, telescopic sight etc. did he need muscles?) Equally problematic are the ideals this post-war hero propagated - patently chauvinistic, jingoistic and right-wing. Then in the 60’s, Super anything was out. Rebel everything was in. Rebel actor (Dean), rebel singer (Dylan), rebel warrior (Che), even rebel jeans (Levis). If you were happy, you shut up, scowled and rebelled without a cause. If you didn’t smoke, do drugs or drink you knew better than to let on. The greatest irony was, if you didn’t conform to the norm of non-conformism you were dead. Or even worse, uncool. In the 70’s, Adam West’s entertaining, safe, simplistic, ‘Batman’ television series, marked a low point in what was promising to shape this ubermensch into a more human hero with all the flaws and self-doubt that assail us. Every camp bam! and boom! set the evolution of the Dark Knight back two decades. The 80’s saw Superman with a darker spin with the advent of heroes like the Hulk - oppressed characters with powers not quite as impenetrable and a temperament not quite as even as Kal El. Characters that had to be pushed to the wall to unleash their inner beast. (Packs of soft, flabby American men went on male-bonding camps into the wild in an attempt to figure out how to unleash their inner beast. Latest reports confirm only two men ever having succeeded - Michael Jackson and Arnold Schwarznegger.). Even contemporary comic book heroes make for tricky role models. Brian K. Vaughan’s ‘Y The Last Man’ while seemingly lets men exhale (he’s skinny, bespectacled), really doesn’t offer any respite. Here is Yorick, last man standing in a world of women who still cannot get them to covet him. Such is his plight that he sets off looking for his girlfriend who had promised to have sex with him if he was the last man alive on earth. One day he is (atlast!), sought after by the women, only to find they want him for his pet monkey, Ampersand, who carries the cure to the extinction of the human male species in his genes.
The last fifteen years have seen more twists in the Maze of Masculinity. Neil Gaiman’s incredibly popular ‘The Sandman’ comic book series marvellously created an unforgettable portrait of a little-known bit player of the original Superhero team as an asexual figure whose desire within to connect with humanity faces a daily battle with a world at odds without. A look at other forms of popular culture echo a new order. Macho FPS (first person shooter) video games have succumbed to gaming like ‘Myst’ that places no emphasis on the sex of the player and seeks to create a world of riddles that have to be solved to succeed. But just when you begin to sense some consistency in the easing of the whole ‘you must be a Man’ thing, welcome to the world of the movies. Here the morning show asks you to walk like Vin Diesel, the matinee, to talk like George Clooney, the night show, to cry like Brad Pitt. The world of music is no better. Are we to be dream kisser Iglesias? Twinkle Toes Timberlake? Bad Boy 50 Cent? Or nerdy Chris Martin? Perhaps the answers are blowing in the wind. Opinion polls show, more than his good looks, Johnny Depp’s talent and eccentricity put him on the walls of a million teenage girls’ bedrooms. Bono’s stature as a role model grows inversely proportional to his physical presence. Noam Chomsky continues to be one of the most innovative, fearless thinkers of our time, beating everybody on an internet poll for the best non-political President of the World. Bill Gates would never win a Hunk of the Year award. And Mahatma Gandhi continues to be at the top of myriad lists of the heroes of our age. I feel a bit better. Till the next GQ men’s advisory, that is.
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Posted by Rahul Bose at May 29, 2006 11:34 AM
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I think the optimum evolution of man will be when he becomes woman.
;)
But I don't believe in evolution so I guess the man to woman thing is not possible!
dear Rahul,
Choosing a role model can make or break any kids life..The media industry is basically a business like everything else...expecting any kind of morality is imposssible..
The best thing is to be yourself and let the world change around you.
It took 2000 years for man to turn into a cancer ;)
Nice way of looking at a planet flourishing since millions of years, which is suddenly fatally ill :) Take analogy of the human body being earth, and of the whole life that you live the ratio is quite close between cancer time to whole life and 2000 years of human evolution to millions of years of existence of planet *grins*
Anyways that was just for the post.
Originally, I came along to ask you to be active for youth4equality.org - they need speakers and supporters like you for their rallies. It's a movement of the educated and if educated like you and me don't go and stand there with them - we're letting education down. Hope to see you there next time :)
P.S.: *still chuckling about it* Oh and about evolution, if you live with something long enough - there're close chances that you might evolve into that ;) You're by products of everything and everyone you be with (roughly quoted from Invisible Monsters by Chuck Palahniuk)
What does all of this mean if you are a dwarf?
Rahul,
You talk about the difficulties that The Man can experience in searching for an identity or a norm, but unfortunately, exactly the same difficulties occur for The Woman. What does a Man look for in a Woman? How can a Woman make herself attractive to a Man? What role should the Woman take in her life? The Woman is often forced into traditional stereotypes (the good wife who looks after her husband, children and home). If a woman dresses in a sexy way or is promiscuous she is often branded a slut or a tart. If a man does the same then he becomes a stud. If a woman remains plain and covered up, she can go through life being unnoticed or branded boring, uninteresting, sometimes even ugly. Who are we to use as role models and how far should we let ourselves go? When will there be a day when equality is achieved between men and women (same pay for the same job, equality in titles)? I know my post has gone off topic a bit, but as a feminist get mad when I read about the difficulties men experience in life, especially when they don't have the added difficulties of menstruation or child birth!
OK, rant over! xxx
Rahul, From John Wayne to James Bond, from The Lone Ranger to The Green Hornet, from Matt Dillon to Barney Phife, from Captain Kangaroo to Captain Kirk, from Alan Alda to Clint Eastwood, from Patton to Peyton, from slick Willy to georgeous George...my, oh my...evolution moves forwards in fits and starts!
Anybody got a timing belt? Alternator?
It's time for a jump start.
I'd love to have the newest model,
without the greased monkey!
All my lube, Keith
to make sense out of monica's argument, its all the same for men and women.
it just gets worse for men, and their confusion becomes explicit and visible, and thus has to be branded as a phenomenon by the 'pop sociologists, faux feminists and other assorted arbiters of the male zeitgeist' because every development(?) in the superior sex has to be documented to form a basis for developing theories of evolution of human beings.
that makes for another argument that even though this confusion over role models exists for both men and women, it is recognized, branded and documented only for men, because anyways men/males is considered to be a synonymn for human beings. and to top it all people like rahul write such articles to glamourize the confusion, and to give exclusivity to it. its ok rahul, we understand how excrutiating this confusion can be, but believe me when i say that like the problems of adolescence that both girls and boys go through and deal with, this confusion over the role models is also that everybody goes through and deals with, and its really no big deal. and to repeat, for the sake of clarity, it is no ways an exclusively male phenomenon
so much so, that i have myself gone through phases of having different role models, and so have my friends, but its sort of difficult for me to brand phases out of it. i think some pop sociologist needs to be consulted over this...
I really can't understand why such a trivial thing can cause confusion among male minds and become the subject of a blog. Terms like Ubersexual, Metrosexual, Retrosexual and blah blah blah are just inventions of idle minds. Why is there a need to fit into any of such labels in the first place. No real man/woman would waste time thinking about such frivolous labels. Why do you feel so insecure about your sexuality that you have to look for validation from outside.
Cheers!
Navin
Anchal,
Did I read your comment correctly? Did you call men the Superior sex? If you did, and if you meant it, then you seriously need a reality check. To say that men are the superior sex is to imply that women should stay downtrodden, even despite all the progress that has been made in the world to try and make them equal. And don't forget, every man has a mother. If there is ever a problem, man always goes crying to his mother for reassurance. Every women has the capability to make life and to take it away. I think that if there is such as thing as a superior sex, then surely this indicates that it is not man?!
OK, feminist rant over! xxx
LOL, Monika,
I don't think you understood Aanchal's post correctly. I think she was being sarcastic when she mentioned men as the "superior sex". She is on your side, girl. :)
Cheers!
Navin
What does a Man look for in a Woman? How can a Woman make herself attractive to a Man? What role should the Woman take in her life? The Woman is often forced into traditional stereotypes (the good wife who looks after her husband, children and home). If a woman dresses in a sexy way or is promiscuous she is often branded a slut or a tart. If a man does the same then he becomes a stud. If a woman remains plain and covered up, she can go through life being unnoticed or branded boring, uninteresting, sometimes even ugly. Who are we to use as role models and how far should we let ourselves go? When will there be a day when equality is achieved between men and women (same pay for the same job, equality in titles)? I know my post has gone off topic a bit, but as a feminist get mad when I read about the difficulties men experience in life, especially when they don't have the added difficulties of menstruation or child birth!
OK, rant over! xxx
Posted by Monika
Yes, indeed, that bio-chemical explanation,
says it all..;)
'BrainSex: The Real Difference between Men and Women' by Anne Moir and David Jessel
But let's get serious for a moment, because, me too, am a big feminist, or fan there of,
1. What does a Man look for in a Woman?
For starters, she must wears skirts and on occasions dresses, preferably looking gorgeous in them,
2. How can a Woman make herself attractive to a Man?
Know the song? Destiny Child's- Cater to you?
I can do It myself, but if the pie is made with love & passion, it tastes so much better..than take-out..;)
3. What role should the Woman take in her life?
'Behind every great man, there's ...a great woman?'
4. Who are we to use as role models and how far should we let ourselves go?
Sing along!, a lady in the streets, and a ..
5. When will there be a day when equality is achieved between men and women?
I do believe, the law, did, give you some (civil rights and stuff) emancipation, though, the PMS.. gives, divorce laywers, great income..;)
I would like to add,
Wanna see a real man? baby, in East Europe,
they are mean, (mostly) bold and ugly,
Stick to your..
http://www.time.com/time/covers/1101050124/sotwixter_chart.html
With,
Love, Passion!
Marek,
Just a quick off-topic question, I know it killed the cat, but I can't help being curious. Why do you have so many blogs on Blogspot?
Monika xxx
P.S Destiny's Childs' Cater To You is one of my least favourite songs of recent times. It's like taking two steps forward and one step back! Why on earth should a woman have to cater to a man?!
P.P.S. Sorry Anchal - didn't read your post properly the first time I read it through - when I see terms like 'superior sex' it's like waving a red rag at a bull. I hate that term.
LOL,
Well, Monika, it all started with this thing called love, a Polish smurf and two very, stoburn,
Dutch, so go figure, capricorns, we almost, well...you gotta love a good chase, but that's besides the point,
It's the way they shake those hips, in that video, while they sing:
I Know Whatever I'm Not Fulfilling (Oh)
Another Woman Is Willing (Oh)
I'm Going To Fulfill Your Mind, Body, And Spirit
I Promise You (Promise You)
I'll Keep Myself Up (Oh)
Remain The Same Chick (Yeah)
You Fell In Love With (Yeah)
What's wrong with those lyrics, for ..;)
But you know what the dance is, Monika?
at the end of the day,
A gentleman proposes, a lady, declares,
but there is no such thing in the English,
Viennese Waltz, or Tango, that a.. leads,
Or do you beg the differ?
2006 and all, but some, courtship rituals?,
games? fun? and a good story to tell your kids,
remain the same?
You tell me, Monika,
with, for,
Love, Passion!
Hey Rahul!
What you describe is excellent and so true! As others here have said, I suspect that women deal with the same thing, this constant struggle to discover who they are supposed to be.
However, as a man I can only speak from my perception. Women say so often that men should
"be able to cry..." or "show their feminine side...", but at the same time millions upon millions of romance novels are sold featuring men that are emotionally distant jerks that women can't keep their hands off. Many women would love to find a "gentle, loving man that makes a good father..." but desire a "bad boy" to sleep with. The message is of course, that if you're a gentle guy, you make a good companion and great marriage material, but frankly we just don't find you sexy...for that we need aloof, emotionally inaccessable jerks.
Men aren't that different either. We want our wives to be sexy and wanton and at our beck and call for anything and everything that we desire, but at the same time we want them to be "chaste" and "pure"...many do not want their wives to have had any past at all.
The reality of course, is that we are all these things and none of them. We have within the whole gamit of human experience, we can be whores and chaste. Sinners and saints. We can be loving fathers/mothers and at the same time be passionate lovers. We can be intelligent and athletic, we can show both sides of our nature, male and female if we want.
The trick is to realize that we all wear many masks. All of them are aspects of us and none of them are. The trick is to enjoy the various masks, take them out on different occassions to play, then put them away for another time when the situation changes. At the same time we need to see past the mask into the heart of the Divine then we realize that it's all just play...and it's a lot more fun to play than to take things so seriously.
Peace,
Scott.
Hmmm...well, I wonder why we can't be just normal, good human beings instead of getting trapped in terminologies. I think a balanced human being (who can differentiate between right and wrong, light and darkness, etc.) transcends all eras and trends.
We get confused when we try to be something just for the effect. For instance, to show the female side means being metrosexual (is it?) but then we all have female. The Neanderthal man too could've been a "metrosexual" in many ways without being aware of the coinage.
Bang on, Scott & Amrit.
Cheers!
Navin
Thank you!!! Nice guys are confused, but women and the bad-boys they love are not. Took me till I was about 44 to figure it out...
Ok, it's simple: For women, sex is a submissive sex act, and so they love the feeling of being over powered by obnoxious, abrasive, and perhaps even abusive personalities, it's better sex for them. And as well, they want someone who at least wants to be in control, not only the the sex, but also because they can dump a lot of stress that men just naturally shoulder without giving it a thought.
Listen, I think men have it pretty easy. They have been waited on for centures. Now they have capitalized on the feminist revolution by expecting women to do everything. But that is a whole other story.
Basically, a man should act like a "man". Oh sure, he can cry, but no woman wants a guy who takes longer in the bathroom than she does, who agonizes over color-coordinating or can't lift a heavy box. I think men should try harder to emulate heroes, heroic qualities. I think they should do lawn work, get their hands dirty, know how to fix basic engine problems.
But I'll tell you, no woman wants a loud mouth jerk--the strength has to be inner strength also--a man needs to ultimately let his wife make most decisions. He should not dominate her. He should be out doing lawn work and maintaining the car--not trying to control things, women are very happy with a man who is manly, he doesn't have to cry (he can if he wants) more importantly he should always put his woman first. Women really do not care if a man is able to cry. She really just wants him to have inner strength and that means not acting like a loud mouth jerk.
God Skeptisch, I'm soooo glad I don't bear the deep intellectual burden you bear! To be so smart.....it must be tough!!
I bet Deepak really did bend spoons!!
norm
A question for Norm: Do you accept the theory of evolution?
Also, this may sound "sexist" but in reality, women do not want a man who talks more about his "feelings" than she does. I don't know why this is. I think it is because women have enough to worry about without having to hear about a man's sensitive feelings. It is fine if he wants to talk about a bad day at work, etc. That is fine. But I think most women will agree that men do not need to get in touch with their inner feelings all that much--we really don't want to hear about it. I know that sounds oh so cruel, but most women over 30 will agree--we prefer a man who does not share his feelings unless it is about her. A man who is too "sensitive"--that is not good.
Yes Skeptisch I do, but I don't think Rahul was starting a scientific discussion...I think it was more metaphorical and tongue in cheek!
I was just having a little bit of fun with how seriously some of you 'intellectuals' take yourselves!! What a burden it must be!!
norm
“I was just having a little bit of fun with how seriously some of you 'intellectuals' take yourselves!! What a burden it must be!!”
We are all in title to our opinions, even when they are completely wrong.
interesting post rahul..
I did one a while back on stereotypes and what the society understands and eemands as "masculinity" and "femininity"...
The truth being....these concepts also evlove with societies and what is considered desirable in one place might not be so, in another.
The important thing is understanding what stereotypes stand for and how they damage us more than helping us!
I wonder if anyone agrees with me that we are taking ourselves too seriously to very little purpose most of the time? I find myself reminding myself too often of late, to take life as it comes and make the most of it and not analyse everything that happens in such minute detail that I end up confusing myself and those around me.
Dear Dara,
I agree with you. As I posted here ealier also, this is much ado about nothing.
Cheers!
Navin
Dara and Navin: Ditto to you two--I've spent 90% of my life "taking myself (my ego's junk), and everybody else's as well," TOO SERIOUSLY!!!!
Jesus said, in "The Sermon on the Mount:" Be not careful, or careless, but CAREFREE!"
Without the massive depth-and-breadth of "A Course in Miracles," and ten years working through it's relentless aim at penetrating the construct of the human ego, I would never have grasped the magnitude of the psycho-spiritual understanding that lays hidden beneath, and behind, that seemingly simple admonition. Dave
Dear Navin,
Actually I was seconding your opinion and Norm's.
David,
Thanks for the titbit of wisdom.
Dear Rahul,
I agree with Naveen. And yes, too much mind fucking going on here. ; - )
Cheers, Rohit
damn..Dulcie...auw..well, the truth hurts, sometimes,
so as love,
thank god, I'm Polish, that's a whole different
ballgame,
the old paradigm, there was,
1. Thy shall not beat your woman
2. Thy shall not be drunk all the time
3. Thy shall not drink the whole paycheck
And even if you did, she'd still stick with you!
It's a polish thing, call it solidarity? family?
whatever!, now it's 2006, but do things change, so much?
Fine, you female's don't want to hear a man's..;)
but what do you give in return..?
Do tell,
because, now, at 28, when I'm, you now, before
'cuddling', taking, 'applications', or dating,
what goes in my mind, is, what will this one be
talking, and talking, and talking about... afterwards..since, it's like a catch 22, damn if you don't listen, and damned if you do..
So, that's why I have manifested, my 'alicia keyes' criterium, which goes, like, heck, no way around it, but she'd better must! have a nice voice..;)
Wich in spiritual vibrations, gyan shakti, would be called..;)
Love, Passion!
My Buddy Marek holds the record for best spammer of them all! He spammed 95 times out of 132 responses in Deepak's first post last June. Well hello there! North, you can't touch this one sis!:)
Whoahahahahahahahaha.......!!!!!
that's not funny, D.,
didn't get the girl(s)..
but, in every failure is the seed of succes, and,
I did got an autograph of Deepaks, in Amsterdam,
and those chicks, sure never, ever, will forgot,
this one polish gentleman..
on a quest, and something about baking, and christmas eve..
Nevermind, neverland,
Love, Passion!
Ps. how's the rancho?
Hey Mr Bose:)
Another intresting topic you have for us ! Yea , role models and the ever changin stereo types of men ( and women) are so confusing. Especially in terms of the exterior.. I deeply admire you but somehow you seemed very vulnerable about this topic.. but i must remind you, you have no reason to be self conscious cos you are the real deal!
As for me ,I am an aspiring journalist and i hope I get to meet you day!
Till then,
Take Care
Yeah, I wonder if you are gay too? I reiterate JD's question. I think alot of what you are saying is pretty old hat..blah,blah,blah..nothing new in the discussion re:- men and women etc.
Interestingly though,most people seek to formulate an image for themselves for acceptance or perhaps to feel part of a group-we're all split personalities to a certain extent in most areas of our lives (work/play etc)...but most matured men today are not really that analytical about whether they are metro,uber,retro..they just get on with it and accept that the man woman role in the family interchanges and sometimes requires the man to be so called 'feminine' and be more involved on an emotional level in relationships.
Categorisation of men and women is quite often fulled by the media. The metro-sexual term was used as an advertising ploy to develop cosmetics and an industry for men-who were being targeted as potential clients. The metro-sexual male was epitomised by Beckham-who advocated facials and manicures, pedicures and was seen shopping for the family in TV adverts etc. However, in Europe, this is the norm..both men and women have to pull their weight at home and in the household chores. Men could be manly, yet also be aware of personal hygiene and their image etc
I disagree that women over 30 don't want a sensitive man-of course we do. We want sensitive partners who listen, understand and support. This is what we look for in all our relationships, whether lovers or friends or family. Men feel just as much as women do-infact I really don't think men and women are really that different..in this day and age-men are allowed to express how they feel..and they should. It may sound crass, but when a man cries and lets his emotions flow-its actually very distressing-because we are not used to a breaking down-he's not supposed to.
Women just want a man to communicate with them on all levels. At the end of the day, everybody needs to feel comfortable within themselves-and feel secure-once you do so..labels don't apply at all.
The topic is a bit 80s! Bit like the cut off T-shirts I keep seeing in Delhi at night-didn't people stop wearing those? ;-)
Thinking Man? When did He come on the scene?
Whoever said this was a genius:
"Civilization is a great idea. But it hasn't hasn't happened yet."
Maybe my models are all goofed up. I look up to Frank Zappa, Leonard Bernstein, and (Brazilian Composer) Hermeto Pascoal.
I missed out on the big muscles thing. I'll take Yo Yo Ma over cult-spokesman Tom Cruise any day.
Hariprasad Chaurasia - now there's a good man.
Any of you ladies think Dick Cheney is sexy? How about that W? Tom Delay? Kenny Lay?
Here's a secret for you, ladies:
Million Dollar Secret - by Helen Humes
I'm gonna tell all you girls a secret, please keep it to yourself
I'm gonna tell all you girls a secret, please, please keep it to yourself
Why it's a million dollar secret, so please don't tell nobody else
Now if you're a real young girl
And you want to get rich quick
Get an old, old man, girls
And that'll be the lick
You know those old men are fine, yes they know just what to do
They'll give you lots of loving, but they'll give you a whole lot of money too
(and I love that part)
Now he'll tickle you under your chin
And he'll scratch you on your side
He'll say "Wake up you fine young thing
Give me my morning's exercise"
Those old men are fine, yes yes yes they know what to do
They'll give you lots of loving, but they'll give you a whole lot of money too
Now I've got a man who's seventy-eight
And I'm just thirty-three
Everybody thinks I'm crazy
But his will's made out to me!
Yes that man is fine, girls he really knows just what to do
Why he'll give you lots of loving, but he'll give you a whole lot of money too
(solos)
Now I've told all you young girls
Exactly what to do
Now let me tell you women
If you're over forty-two
Get you a young dude, and raise him to your hand
Cause he'll make you think life is wonderful, yes you'll think the world is grand
Now take a look in the barnyard
See that old fat hen
She's got a fresh young rooster
Feels just like a chick again
So get a young man, and raise him to your hand
Cause he'll make you think life is wonderful, yes you'll think the world is grand
You know he'll spend your hard-earned money
Make your life a hell on earth
What is a man?
We never had that problem before. We thought we were immune to it during the feminist revolution.
Sounds like it is seeping into the younger generation though. What is a man without the old boundaries that separated the sexes?
Gender is a massive issue. It is something that confuses us when we realize that there is no gender in the spirit world. Then we see how rigid we are in our self-definition.
It gets trickier when we realize that wisdom is feminine. Once you discover some past lives as the opposite sex, your mind really gets twisted about 'who you are.'
Kinda broadens the debate about conforming to someone else's definition of who you are.
I just know one thing , I never go by the packaging of a person, thing........ Wait for the wrapper to wear off and the real self becomes visible and that is something which should be authentic, be it in male or female , rest all other traits are relative and appreciation lies in the mind of the beholder, (well modified the maxim)
I just know one thing , I never go by the packaging of a person, thing........ Wait for the wrapper to wear off and the real self becomes visible and that is something which should be authentic, be it in male or female , rest all other traits are relative and appreciation lies in the mind of the beholder, (well modified the maxim)
well with the evolution in physical sense...the evolution of mind seems to have taken a back seat....what are we tryin to fit in as....a reality check on ourselves first....
cant deny the blind faith in the candyfloss superstars...each new in every new generation....
role models will keep comin...life a big picture...and people makin a fool of themselves???? they can be lead haywire...and why not make hay when things are HAYWIRE...oops did i spell out the secret...hahaha....
ENJOY........
well with the evolution in physical sense...the evolution of mind seems to have taken a back seat....what are we tryin to fit in as....a reality check on ourselves first....
cant deny the blind faith in the candyfloss superstars...each new in every new generation....
role models will keep comin...life a big picture...and people makin a fool of themselves???? they can be lead haywire...and why not make hay when things are HAYWIRE...oops did i spell out the secret...hahaha....
ENJOY........
Chapter 1: What Women Want (and have always wanted)
Ideal Man - an alpha in bed, a sensitive poet over dinner, a warrior wage earner and one that is faithful to family. We women know, however, that finding a man with this combo package would be akin to winning the lottery
So, for the dork who is just look for 'some', watch "The Tao of Steve." He gives you the right recipe.
GQ Tip: women aren't as changeable or complicated as men think.
yeah right..;)
ok, lilinou, let's indulge,.. but what awaits, this non-fictual prince charming, on the other hand of the pre-contractual spectrum..?
becuase with emancipation comes equality?
what gifts do you females have to bring to the table?
Love, Passion,
lilinou..
you are spamming, bugging? the starlights out of this blog, while you could be engaged in a serious discussion on 'what woman want'..
gee..go figure..women..
rationality..logic..comunication skills..
common sense..
fairytales..
of,
Love, Passion, buy yourself a puppy! ;)
This is an irritating phenomenon which seems to crop up in any debate and reduce it to mere personal attacks.If there are two views X and Y, and a person speaks against Y, it is assumed that he stands for X.This is not always true.
If I think global warming harms us, it does not necessarily mean I am against industrial progress.I could hate the Taliban but doesn't necessarily mean I am pro-hindutva.It could be that I am against all fundamentalists.Those who want to know someone's orientation because they spoke for one gender are viewing things from a simplified viewpoint.Unfortunately, issues are not so simple.Instead if we spent more time coming up with counter-arguments to questions raised in the blog-post, it could be a more meaningful exercise for all concerned.
That apart, I believe gender issues are a weathered topic. Anybody who wants to blog on such topics should provide more insightful facts/figures than a mere chronological listing of role-models (which anyways seemed to suggest comic book heroes are the most eulogised.Sportspersons anybody?
Much as we would not like to acknowledge it, many of us grew up with role models from bollywood and heroes nearer home, than western idols. Anyway let's talk global, let's talk big.
It seems the last comment of my post was cut off - which was, Rahul, you either need a good copy editor or a course in physical anthropology. Marek, that might apply to you as well. BTW Marek, I am not a puppy (nor in need of one) but I am guessing that you might be.
I'd lay odds that I am old enough to be your mother. And I do know a little about what women want, having been one for many decades.
So much for him blabbing on about "how hard it is to be a man " and all.....when he doesnot even know how to talk to a woman on the phone. Wonder why he is not in a relationship! One has to look into themselve first in order to come in grasp to others. You should give yourself a chance to see what and how you say thing to others, and realising the impact of it...how your words and actions might make or break a persons day, weather it be a male or female. You go on about helping people and all (that you dont know in person)and showing sympathy...good on you...but how is it any different to when you get a call from a total stranger on the other side of the world, and all you can say is to F*@* off? Hard to imagine a person who'd help others in a heart beat would actually be so rude. Makes you wonder if you really are a genuine person or is it all for a show??
Here is a funny picture of the shape of things to come.. it ain't spam!
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“It took evolution 500 years to move us from Neanderthal Man to Rennaisance Man!”
Rahul Bose, are you aware of the following:
"The Neanderthal (Homo neanderthalensis) or Neandertal was a species of the Homo genus that inhabited Europe and parts of western Asia from about 230,000 to 29,000 years ago, during the Middle Paleolithic period."