Fact of life: Am Born > Will grow old > Will die. :) No one can escape.

But you can delay the grey hairs and the ageing process with a healthy lifestyle and positive attitude. Age is only in the mind.

Cheers!
Navin

typo correction: read "grey hair" and not "hairs"

Now listen, dear Mallika,

Do you soon want to become bald picking your hair? You pick at least 20 a day. How many are left by now?

And why do you pick them? What's wrong with grey hair?

But there are easy ways to hide grey hair than picking each one by one, and with each pick, exhaling an "Ouch!" and saying: "I got it, I got it this time, this s-b, after you open your eyes on your squirming face.

The treatment is this: rub Anmala oil on your scalp before you go to bed everyday. Anmala oil is from the kernels of sweet-sour plum like green fruit from India that goes by the name Anmala.

You can import it from India and showcase at your store where other paraphernalia is sold, including embroidered silk sarees, scarfs, perfumes, incenses, books authored by your dad and what not. If the treatment is effective, hordes of IB old ladies and some narcissistic young guys smiling at their own handsomeness will send you numerous orders.

Death--- I like to think of it as moving on...

Gray hairs-- I have been obsessing over the same issue-even to the point where I did some research on the cause. I have been thinking, I must not be meditating enough or I need more nutrients in my diet. It is occurring because the pigment is no longer available in that follicle. The oil well is drying up. My reason for concern is not really the gray but not wanting to put chemicals on my head to cover them up. I am also 35 and that is way to young for me to be sporting gray hair. So, I have decided to focus on the abundance or pigment in my scalp and let go of the worry... I will get back to you on the outcome.

As for death with children, I tell my children, who are similar in age to yours, that when a person dies they need to goes to visit God. They find peace in this answer.

Love and Peace,

Suzanne

LOL. One more of the ids of the old aliases expert is confirmed: Saul.

Cheers and Good night,
Navin

Obvious solution: color your hair. find a good colorist and explain to him that you want to cover the grey. you can also do some subtle highlights (caramel is in for the summer), to make you feel younger and fresher.

Also, don't be shy to start Restylane injections (botox is so 2004) and microdermabrasion to keep your skin youthful. And, like my dermatologist says, the sun is your enemy.

You live in Cali...no one gets old there, and no one should have to. I'm 25, but I'll be following my own advice when the time comes (hopefully not for another 10+ years)!

Everyone has to get older chronologically. At least now, you don't have to look like it.

Mallika mused: "That I have embarked to a place of no return -- "

I have good news for you. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Before you know it you will be 45. Your kids will be out of your hands. You will begin to see whole new vistas ahead of you. They will be made up entirely of "me" time. Wait, it gets better. You will have a true sense of freedom because unlike in your youth, you will be free of all sorts of teenage angst, and 20-something neuroses of having to prove yourself. Really, old age has a very bad rap indeed. As I look back at my life, I have to say that my 20's were absolutely the worst years of my life.

As for the grey hair, I think you'll get over it. I've decided I'm going to stop coloring my hair when I'm 55. Gotta grow old gracefully after a point.

And Mallika, on an another note, you dad wrote a best seller titled something: Ageless Body, Mindless Mind.

Did you read that book? I wonder why it has not stopped your aging process!

And if you have problem finding Anmala Oil, please ask any Punjabin from Ludhiana or Jullunder, the cities nearby where Harb, our old friend and the author of Self-Designed Universe, now translated by Mieke into Dutch, I believe, lives.

Punjabins call Anmala Oil as "Anmlay Da Tail", and when they go to the haberdasher, they ask for it like this:

"Haey bhrawa, anmaley da tail hai hee? Main keh karan, sary khasim khanay, bachay, ghar wala,tay saas-sohray mera her roz cir khanday rehnday hun. Saray sir day waal safed hon lug gayeh hun."

Dear Mallika, you are merely being "prepared" for your 40th!! And, it comes too quickly. I hit the big 50 in a couple months; and I stopped colouring my hair last year; to save those dollars for my son's college account(smile.) But, it's only half-grown out, so I look "very odd" half my hair is blonde on the bottoms from ears, to below shoulders; and the top half, from ears to top; is a yucky brown, with so much grey; I can't believe it's MY head I'm looking at some days.

But you know, though time and freedom to play seep through our finders like water, and as age creeps up on us, showing itself in the mirror of grey hairs; you have indeed, just begun a new life.

A life where your girls are going to be asking you questions, to which your answers will come out of some form of storage memory-bank!! The answers will come; and even if they are rather vague; to a child, their understanding is so different from ours. Theirs is so minimal.

Time to hit the library, and find books on explaining life and death to the kids; so you'll be prepared a little, for more deep-discussions to come.

All the best Mallika; and I do believe your beauty will outlast your youth.

North

Mallika, You are fortunate -- I am all of 29 and my side burns are turning grey; gives me all the more complex for my wife is only 23, looks 19 and has the most fabulous hair.

One word of caution - please don't pluck your grey hair that will only farm them more. Take it easy and use Henna (Mehandi) to hide them.

Sameer

PS: I am also balding (does that make you feel better?) - I wrote to Deepak a lot of times about this problem - he never talks about hair.

The only thing I can never come to terms with is the aging and passing on of parents, grandparents and loved ones in their generation. The obvious rationalization is that this is the way it is meant to be so accept it. I maintain my sanity because I don't single-mindedly obsess on this thought for long periods of time.

The loss of youth and the growing and eventual departure of kids have so much positive in them, that it is a mixed bag. If an elder person is suffering and losing the ability to live in a dignified manner one welcomes death as closure. Yet the void that is created is impossible to fill.

Mallika, I don't really take to most of what your good father says about matters besides politics. But if I am not mistaken, he said somewhere on this blog that being increasingly conscious of your mortality and those around you will make you a better person. This makes intuitive sense. It has hung on me rather heavily and made me react in more mature ways where I previously would have had a cow. Perhaps the grey hairs can have a similar positive effect on you, if you need it. Best wishes.

Mallika, plucking your gray hair is OK to do. There is a myth that plucking gray hair makes one have more gray hair. It is just a myth. When you pluck 20 hair, 20 hair will grow back. You will not go bald.

You may consider henna. It colors the gray auburn and looks fine. A few of my friends who are allergic to hair dye use henna. You can color and high light the hair, caramel highlights are very nice as some one suggested.

I am not sure about Anmala, unless it is Amla, which is a well known ingredient in many Ayurvedic hair products from India. I have used the oils with herbs from India, and I like them a lot.

You are a very beautiful girl. Some people get gray hair earlier than others. There is genetic predisposition. There are no other known causes. There are instances where under extreme stress a person became gray overnight so to speak.

My father got gray hair early. My brother and I did not inherit that, but my sister did.

One of these days I will stop coloring my hair.

Mallika, do you mind if I bless you?? Please let me know. The blessing comes from my heart, and soul. It is neither phony, nor egotistic. It is just a little touch of love and good wishes. A fellow blogger wrote a poem on Suchitra's blog, ridiculing my habit of blessing. Since then I ask people before I bless them. Do you have a rule on IB about blessings??

Hey Navin,

Dude u got to chill a bit....its becoming a real PIA, u posting the same alias sh** over and over again......

Man let it go...

enjoy
~A

Dear Saul,
"open your eyes on your squirming face".
You are staring into the mirror,
again.

Im with you on that ~A!! your post #13 or #14,

that the guy is getting really more moronic, monotonous, sounding more and more like a man with-schitzophrenic-paranoi!

ON every blog, he's accusing someone of something; even if they are innocent, don't matter to him none.

then, mallika goes in the feuding blog, will clear them(divya) of fraudulent charges against them, to prove their innocence; but not the other innocent one's(north, ravi, OK, frost, etc.).

interesting to note, don't you think?

so far, he's fought with just about everyone on this blog. his own blog lays clean, empty, no visitors, comments, only pictures of a man dressed up like a gay pretty boy

navin you for sale or something?

~B

PS-it's not too hard to mimic somebody else in writing style, so there goes that argument too

"so far, he's fought with just about everyone on this blog. his own blog lays clean, empty, no visitors, comments, only pictures of a man dressed up like a gay pretty boy."

Very confusing. There are more than 400 comments. Where are the pictures? Just one, sitting before chest pieces.

Hey, I am all for the "bottle". It feels like a "makeover"! Turn the "old" into "young" and feel good!

My father was pre-maturely grey so I started getting grey at a very young age....part of life. The thing is that I would HATE being gray at this point. I just would feel too old....

Just my 2 cents!!

Joanie

"When you pluck 20 hair, 20 hair will grow back. You will not go bald.

You may consider henna."

Mallika, please check with some scalp specialist - head doctor - before you pluck more grey hair. The logic is this: if you pull out the roots of the hair by plucking, where from the new hair will come? What technique you use?

You must have heard, "Nip the evil in the bud," or something like that. Your grey hair are evil, that's why, I think, you pluck them.

If you use henna, your hair will look like the hair of sufi saints who use henna on their balding heads and long flowing beards and few inches long moustaches. And sometimes, even on eyebrows that really makes them look like out-of-the-world people possessing demonic powers!

Dear Geeta,
You are you...and you are a wonderful person.You do not need to change anything in you.If people don't like your blessing its their problem.
Be yourself and i would just like to add that i appreciate you and love to read your messages.
I feel you have very positive energy which is reflected in your writing.
Geeta at this point in your life ...you have a lovely family,wonderful freinds,and a fulfilling life where you work with autistic kids...do you really give a DA** that someone wrote a poem about you...If i were you I wouldn't...
Regards

Andaleeb, thanks. I have blessed every one on the blog for one year, and now I am not sure if I did the right thing. The blessings leave me with pure intention. But are they received with the same pure intention?? If some one is against the blessing I would like to not give it.

Mallika, the root of the hair is deep under the skin. When one pulls the hair you are only pulling from the epidermis. I will guarantee you hair will grow back. If you must talk to a physician please talk to a dermatologist, not to a "head doctor", or a "scalp specialist", since there are no scalp specialists.

Mallika, since you are not completely gray henna looks nice. If some one is completely gray they should use color.

Would you please please answer my question about the blessing?? I feel odd not blessing you.

You can color your grey hair if you want - no problem . I have a Gujarati female friend who colored her hair for years, then like Divya, at age 55, she just relaxed into it, and let it be grey.

My opinion - it didn't affect her beauty one single bit, and I respect her more for coming to terms with her aging. In fact, she has beautiful silver grey hair. It looks nice on her.

I think you may not have considered that grey hair can look nice. As it is hammered home in all your Dad's books, it's the filters and labels you put on the idea of grey hair that cause you to be attracted or repelled by it. Grey hair is simply - hair. As it is. Hair.

Facing aging is a challenge everyone must meet. It's hard to face your own aging and the changes your body goes through when you age because, well, because it's so damn personal. It can never be someone else's problem that we can sound enlightened and philiosophical about.

Nope. It's our own aging process - what are we going to do about that? You know what againg means - it means we're dying a slow, drawn out death. The common wisdom is that the luckier we are the slower and more drawn out it will be.

May you be blessed with a very slow and long drawn out dying process! Wait - I mean may you be blessed with a long life!

So that's the dilemma. And you can fix the hair color - you can have perfect black hair when you turn 100 years. No problem, the technology exists.

But what the technology cannot do for you is process your own emotions and viewpoints about your own aging and eventual death. That is for each of us to face within ourselves.

As for children - it is difficult for them to comprehend, or to get the depth of it even if they grasp conceptually what death is.

It is a difficult concept to teach to young people. They do not need to hear lies, but it is sure better to keep the explanations a bit superficial until they are of the age when they begin to want deeper answers.

If you can be honest and teach your children the truth about aging and death in such a way that they adopt a healthy attitude about it, I'd say you've handled one of the major issues in parenting.

Best wishes!

Dear Geeta,
A blessing always blesses the one offering it.
The one it is offered two may or may not receive it. It depends on their receptivity.
You have done the right thing.
If you wish, you can say the blessing silently.
It will work just the same as saying it aloud, or in writing.

Mallika,

You are a beautiful woman--no need to worry about a few grays:)
I know what you mean though about feeling older--I think that started happening to me the day I hit 30--it did not matter how much I went to the gym--I might have felt I was in great shape but I still felt that icky "I am getting older" feeling--must be psychological :)
Anyway, Divya is right though--I think it is all uphill once you get out of your 20's though--I remember the neuroses--now I feel much more peaceful about things, life, etc. Geez, I'd love to have the energy I did when I was 20 now when I am not stressin' so hard about, as Divya said "proving myself".
I guess the thirties are a mixed blessing.
Just remember beautiful women do not need to stress about greys:)

Everyday,we are another day older!! So people live your life - Laugh out loud,play, be with loved ones, travel,read,be a beach bum,listen to music,watch a good movie,have a good meal,be nice to others, help others out,do whatever your heart tells you to. Cos we dont know where we will be tomorrow.

Dont get bogged with day to day lifestyle of work, home, dinner, sleep...LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH PASSION!!!!!!!!!!! (as Tony Robbins would say).Hmmm grey hair, what the heck -colour if you want to, pluck it if you want to,leave it if you want to - which ever way your beauty will not fade,cos your have a wonderful heart!!

Rad

Mama Knows. I do not know why but I must research this subject. So far all I have been saying is what I am feeling, all emotion. I am very stubborn, another fault of mine. I need to step back and see if I can find anything in the scriptures. I appreciate your kindness and maturity. Thank you.

Dear Mallika,
Sometimes few everyday events strike a chord within us and tell us that we have a very short tine in this world and we better utilize it

I turned 38 yesterday. I looked in the mirror this morning and realized that my grey (white!) roots have grown back and this time it only took three weeks!

Its like my hair knew I was a year older and overnight decided to give me cruel wake up call. I'll shave the damn thing off before I give up that bottle.

I've never been all that attached to my hair. I know women who panic at the notion of cutting off a few inches. Actually its so creepy to see women who have had the same haircut for decades, isnt it? Why are we attached to our hair?

Maybe I will shave it off and let it all come in grey.........uhmnnnnnnnnnnnn... f*#k that. The bottle is my friend.

Mallika, do you clench your teeth and close your eyes when you are just going to pull your hair from your head. Just the thought of it gives me shivers. How can you do that? Is it not painful?

Perhaps you can rub 1% or 2% Lidocaine near the the area that is going to be under your attack of hair plucking. If you do not find Lidocaine solution, you can rub Anbesol, OTC solution. that people rub on gums for tooth ache. Wait for at least a minute or two, before you pull your hair. You will be pulling then with a smile on your face, and no more squirming! Hope you pull your hair with ease.

"Maybe I will shave it off and let it all come in grey.........uhmnnnnnnnnnnnn... f*#k that. The bottle is my friend."

Here is another solution, Mallika. First cuss, then shave off your head, then get to a bottle of vodka! Everything in a sequence.

A first something of life always demands attention & consideration, +ve or -ve!

The good things of life demand admiration & appreciation; the bad ones rejection, repulsion or at least indifference & the ugly ones demand some action, at the least!

Grey hair, excess weight- even a few extra ounces!, wrinkles, laugh lines, crow feet, etc. all attract attention. The more we worry about them & try to set them rt, the more they appear to be there! The best thing to do is to ignore them & let them be there & live life as if they did not exist!

There's this 1 thing I hv observed. If we highlight some "weakness", others always seem to hv noticed that all along & have just been waiting to comment but if we show we dont care, no body cares either!
I hope I am making some sense!! :)

hello !!! I have grey hair and im 29. but theyre not yet too many & they dont appear 20X on my head eachday. there are at least 10 of them and they are clumped on the left part of my head, near my forehead. i think this is because i have problem with my circulation, this is also the same part that gets a migraine every now & then & the left part of my body seem to ache more than my right.

but grey hairs dont worry me. or should i start worrying? what do having grey hairs mean, really?

You don't get older, you get better!

Time does seem to speed up the further we progress into our lives...but this has more to do with an ever expanding universe and the gradual dispensation of gravity....

It is however possible to slow down the ageing process...become a non-violent eater aka vegan/vegetarian, like me!

Cheer up!!

Happy Belated 38th, Birthday Maria Luisa!!

I hope you had a wonderful birthday celebration.

North

Hi Mallika,

Mine started greying in my late twenties. I love the grey ones...they are attached. It's those other traitorous curs that started jumping ship at about 35 that I am not so happy with :). Fortunately, my old buddies the grey ones have stayed loyal and refused to abandon me despite the mutiny of those brown ones on the crown of my head (may they forever foul a discarded brush or swim in a vat of Nare).

Besides a few grey hairs on a women just highlight her beauty.

Peace,
Scott.

i'm not fond of grey
but i got tired of the dying
so I went off the bottle
and went naturele
I am who I am
you will find
you simply have
to make up your own mind!
don't feel dismay
over shades of grey

Thanks North for the birthday wishes!

"Anon, you are hysterical (and rather familiar...) Rest assured all, for now, I will wait to hit the bottle!"

Mallika, I was only helping you finding every possible solution for the mid thirties crisis.

Even Narad Muni made a special request to Ravi Kopra to write a poem on this topic, that was posted last night on the Open Thread.

Mallika you say, "rather familiar". Ask the witch hunters, they are leaps and bounds ahead of you. They are very smart, Agatha Christy type or Cannon Doyle type - damn, I do not even know their names. I am not into mysteries. I have yet to study Kabala under the gentle guidance of your family friend, Zappy.

The moment anybody with a new ID comes to IB, the supreme secret searcher, who was trained by the former KBG of the USSR, posts comment, "Ha, ha. Here goes Ravi again!"

Since I cannot think of any new IDs for the time being, I will remain anonymous for some time, using my current ID: Anon. Before I say to you, "OK, I will see you later," I think the supreme secret searcher would already be after me. Well, he has his job to do, like of us. Is this what Hindus call Karma or perhaps Dharma?

Mallika, thank you . God bless you always. Love. geeta.

Geeta, I do believe the blessings benefit the one who sends, whoever said that above is correct. But you'd rather send them unconditionally, so do not talk about your blessings just send them.

The ID police and those abusing it need to grow up and chill, none of you are amusing or entertaining with your sarcasam towards each other, or rather, realize that those who are not involved in your mess have equal space here.

Btw, it sounds freaky that people (it seems women) are counting their gray hair, whooaaa, how do you do that, and why? I think men do not have this problem (of counting) if they are not in Cali, they are indifferent to their hair.....or so I wish to believe. :)

I hope you had a good birthday Maria Luisa; had I known, I would have made you a card too!! YOU many Gemini's including my Mom last Monday(11th) are keeping me hopping this year!! May this new year in aging like a fine, perfected wine; be blessed with your unmet desires most, being met.

Noname, here's some giggles I want to share with you and all;

we count our grey hair, because men's measure and value of women is of and by beauty of the physical body, face, teeth and hair, and oh yeah, height!

I hear, this is how horse's are also bought and sold?(I"m laughing, please join me; all together now)

Then, he learns, one day, that a beguiling beauty is often decieving, and the beautiful, may be ugly as a person; henceforth, ends up marrying one day, a wallflower or plain-jane, but with a heart so beautiful, he cannot resisit her glory.

This occurs, more oft' than not in life.(well, true or not?)

Do men, not realize the pressure they put on us women, to remain youthful-immortal? (I am not laughing now.)and tall, if we aren't?(what's with that?)

And yet, men(because they are usually the main money-maker) can go bald, and it looks cool; but, not for a woman!

men can slowly or quickly "grow" a pot-bell; but, not a prob, they deserved it for working hard; but, not for a woman who works hard too!

grey hair on a man? looks distinguished they say; but, not for a woman, she looks old and haggardly!

so yah, you men got it easy really; you get to age without too much pressure of remaining youthful-handsome immortal too-with permanant ab's and stun-bun peach's as buttocks WE women prefer!

but, a woman is expected to stretch herself to the limits, quite literaly in every regard of womanhood; in child-bearing; yet, miraculously hide the births of maybe 3 children, and still look like she did, when they first married when she is forty or fifty?

This is why, men are from mars, and women are from Venus!

Please, I hope everyone was laughing "with" me?(at me is good too, get it all out now.)

I was in all sincerity being giggly about it; but, itsn't it all the truth?(blinky-wink)

so anyway, as I mentioned previous, I stopped colouring my hair last year(May) and I am half natural/grey, and half blonde, look old and haggardly, but youthful too, for fifty!(floor-stomps one foot!)

I cannot imagine; nah, actually I can imagine the "gossip-bantering" said across many rooms, and streets, in waiting lines, being whispered as I walk pass, just because of my hair?(they think I care.)

but you know? I am almost fifty. I can't hide it. Why try? Why bother? If I keep my body clean, does it matter really, if it's 50, looking 20? Did I not earn the right yet, to be almost fifty, and looking almost fifty?

for who? certainly, not for the woman!

OK let your girls outta their bondage!! Let your girls(breasts) DANCE! Let your grey hair annouce the coming of your maturity; be proud of your womanly age.

I look old, I am old. All the positivity about it, will not prevent it; but, as you can see; I've learned to laugh at the adverities aging might bring forth.

Just because it's served to you; does not mean, one must eat it.

I walk around, like I am Princess North. I know I am short, cherubic in some delightful ways(ahem) so very grey of hair, so very transparant is my skin, and wrinkled.

But, no matter what my body tells the world; it is how I treat myself; which might inspire or cause regurgetation from someone.

Be proud, we have earned our womanly maturity.

I love the way my silvery strands catch the light; they look silver indeed; like a fairy-godmother or something! Now, IF I can only find a real magic wand.

I have a pic of me actually, with Annie Lennox hair, wayYyy back in 1976!! I had a fro before that, and cut it all off!! because, I was the first woman to plant trees with men. I paved many roads for women.

May the Universe conspire with me, to always be a woman, proud of her path.

There, this took too long sorry!! read, or not, I had the giggles, because of my son's letter today, saying he got 2 grants for college!! not much, but in 3 years, will save him almost 10 thousand dollars!!

I am so excited, I can just puke really.

North

Maria Luisa, a birthday card for you! Not much notice, it's belated, but the sentiment is the same!

All the best!!

http://xs102.xs.to/xs102/06246/maria.bday.JPG

NO time to get new graphics, so used SmallWorld

North

And i turned 28 on 16th(here in india it's 17th now.)

There are few grey hair already for the last 2-3 years. Sometimes they become too visible & i feel bad about it and i try to hide them before girls run away. ; - )

Cheers, Rohit

And i turned 28 on 16th(here in india it's 17th now.)

There are few grey hair already for the last 2-3 years. Sometimes they become too visible & i feel bad about it and i try to hide them before girls run away. ; - )

Cheers, Rohit

Something is going wrong with my browser i think. I click on post & nothing happens visibly but when i check, i find that my post is already there. So, sorry for duplicate posts guys.

"noname",both of us agree that when I bless some one the blessing that leaves me with pure, benevolent, intent, will bring me good karma.

We both do not agree on its effect on the recipient. Let us analyse,"GOD BLESS YOU". Here I(person doing the blessing) am asking GOD to bless YOU(the recipient). So it is a request to GOD from ME. So it is akin to a prayer made by ME on YOUR behalf. God being all loving, all compassion, listens to the pure love behind that simple request of mine and grants me a boon and blesses you whether you are deserving or not. God loves every one the good the bad and the ugly. I used to bless every one till a fellow blogger wrote a poem and ridiculed me infront of the whole wide world. I am just giving an example. I do not mean you are not deserving. I have not yet looked up any books. I have been busy fasting and praying today. Thank you "noname" for your comment.

North, thanks so much for the birthday card. It took me a moment to see the image within the flower. Lovely.
I'll be sure to 'Pay It Forward'.
Thank you
ML

It was my pleasure to surprise you Maria Luisa. Glad it did!

Rohit, can't leave you out of birthday surprises, can I?

Happy Birthday Rohit Malik!!

http://xs102.xs.to/xs102/06246/rohit.bday.jpg

All the best!

North

Sounds like me when I found my first grey hair in blonde hair, so you know it must have been very obvious. Aside from your beautiful post of the heart, I have heard that Fo Ti eliminates grey hair, by placing a drop a day of the liquid on ones tongue. I have been doing this for a month, but I still had to pluck what appeared to be grey where the forehead meets the hair line, and I was told it would elimate grey hair per the seller via what a client told her. Oh well, I will keep trying.

I do belive that stress causes grey and I was able to stop the increasing grey by meditating, but haven't figure out how to eliminate it. But I haven't really meditated very well these last four months or so, therefore, the grey is winning.

Hey, grey (white) can be considered a glorious crown of Light or Wisdom. I know ... but it does not help one with the grey hair, especially women, as society tends to judge a female by her beauty and youth, as greying is a sign of aging.

In the meantime ... I pluck and pluck!

Love, Char

Thanks North! > >

;- )

Cheers, Rohit

Sounds like me when I found my first grey hair in blonde hair years ago, so you know it must have been very obvious. Aside from your beautiful post of the heart, I have heard that Fo Ti eliminates grey hair, by placing a drop a day of the liquid on ones tongue. I have been doing this for a month, but I still had to pluck what appeared to be grey where the forehead meets the hair line, and I was told it would elimate grey hair per the seller via what a client told her. BTW: If you pluck one, one comes back by my own proof, as I have also heard of the old wives tell that plucking one brings many, which I think only meant ... you keep plucking as you age, so you get more grey hair as time passes. Oh well, I will keep trying.

I do belive that stress causes grey and I was able to stop the increasing grey by meditating, but haven't figure out how to eliminate it what I have now. But I haven't really meditated very well these last four months or so, therefore, the grey is winning!

Hey, grey (white) can be considered a glorious crown of Light or Wisdom. I know ... but it does not help one with the grey hair, especially women, as society tends to judge a female by her beauty and youth, as greying is a sign of aging.

In the meantime ... I pluck and pluck!

Love, Char

You're in you're thirties and you are worried about this???

Oh, my goodness!

Sorry but I have to have a hearty laugh over that one!

C'mon, you won't even know the feeling for at least 10 more years!

Mid-thirties to forties are the high point, and for some folks the fifties and sixties are the true years of enjoyment.

Don't let all this youth-worship enculturation fool you.

A little maturity and appreciation are way better than young and confused any day, in my book.

And 99% of youth is confused. It's VERY rare to find one that actually knows what the heck they're talking about half of the time.

No, don't waste your energy worshipping youth - talk about false images of god!

Geez, you're better off worshipping money than youth, if you must find a false god to throw your life onto.

Douse yourself with some cold water, run around the block, and have a shower and a cup of tea.

You'll feel much better.

You're in you're thirties and you are worried about this???

Oh, my goodness!

Sorry but I have to have a hearty laugh over that one!

C'mon, you won't even know the feeling for at least 10 more years!

Mid-thirties to forties are the high point, and for some folks the fifties and sixties are the true years of enjoyment.

Don't let all this youth-worship enculturation fool you.

A little maturity and appreciation are way better than young and confused any day, in my book.

And 99% of youth is confused. It's VERY rare to find one that actually knows what the heck they're talking about half of the time.

No, don't waste your energy worshipping youth - talk about false images of god!

Geez, you're better off worshipping money than youth, if you must find a false god to throw your life onto.

Douse yourself with some cold water, run around the block, and have a shower and a cup of tea.

You'll feel much better.

Yes ... I too have been having problems with the posting on this site.
~~~~~~~~~

BTW: Yogi-one ... the reason we have issues with the physical, is because this is an area that we can control and one we can change, and one we can re-create, as we all know this deep within. So the quesion becomes, why? as you stated so passionately in your post. We are making the grey and we can eliminate the grey. As long as we are here in this physical body, we are worshiping all that is available to us, regardless of what name we want to call it, for we all have priority of importance to ourselves. When we stop worshiping this physical world and all that it encompasses, we will cease to exist in it as we are. At this point, then we will be able to assist our brothers and sisters as the angels assist us. :-)

That's my 2 cents and thanks for your post, as you expanded my thinking on this subject, for which I am in deep conflict with.

Love, Char

Dear Rohit and Maria Louisa,
Belated birthday wishes for both. God! We have so many Geminis here! :)

Cheers!
Navin

Dear Maria Luisa and Rohit Malik,
Geminis and Grey?
It's not a bad combination :)
Happy Birthday wishes
from this
greyless
girl,
so far.
Love,
~ Kate

Maria Luisa, HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY.

Rohit Malik, HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY.

Mallika, according to the Ayurveda book I have written by Vasant Lad, the people of Pitta Prakruti tend to have premature graying. Ask your dad if watching your diet and eating foods to pacify Pitta may benefit. God bless you. love.

Thanks all for the wishes!!

Applause from the audience!!

Girls are going wild at Intent blog because today is my birthday....haha

Hi yogi-one,

I don't agree with you. ; - )

Today's youth is very smart & really knows what they are talking about for instance ME (haha)

What you say might be true for a certain percentage but not with all but still today's youth is much better than paster generations.

Cheers, Rohit

Little Correction :

What you say might be true for a certain percentage but not with all and today's youth is much better than past generations.

; - )

Rohit, I don't know you yet, but

Happy Birthday! anyway...

Maria Luisa, Hope your birthday

was Happy, hope to meet you someday.

.

Mallika, grey hair is a bummer, for sure.

But when one is losing the hair on top

of one's head, they are all precious,

no matter what color they are!

Same goes for that darn hair

all over my back and shoulders.

Guess I have to love them too, huh?

The kids say "Dad, you can take off your sweater now...

it's summer!"

So today the buzzer will come out,

and my daughter will mow my back,

then you can see all my freckles!

The girl doesn't like to put lotion

anywhere there's hair..."Yuck, Dad!"

Better than getting burned all the time though!

I've had plenty of that,

in more ways than one.

Got hair? Me2, barely...

Dears Maria Luisa & Rohit Malik!
Warm birthday wishes to u2, albeit belated! Hope u2 have a lovely life ahead.

I am sorry i clubbed ur names together... but aam sure u2 b'day buddies wont mind!

Love & God bless!

Nothing wrong with gray hairs... I started getting them at about 18. I'm 35 now and well, we won't go there... that's where the hair dresser comes in...

And why are there so many Geminis on Intent? We're just like little social butterflies fluttering from blog to blog! All over the place! ;)

Dear Malika,
I will share with you all something very interesting that the natives of america knew,

Indian Chief Big Bear at the age of eighty years had not a grey hair in his head

The Indians, as is well known, are very seldom bald and almost never show grey hairs. the simple preventive they use is as follows;
In the spring they cut off the end of a branch of the common grape vine and tie a gourd or bottle so that the sap which drops from the end of the branch is collected. This sap they use as a lotion rubbing the scalp and roots of the hair freely. it is said to be a preventive of both grey hairs ans baldness (from the book Vitalogy

Cheerio!

Thanks again for wishes friends! ; - )

And Malika, i didn't do anything special. Just went to watch few documentary movies on AIDS at India Habitat Centre, Delhi. First movie was pathetic but second was fine.

Thank you all for your birthday greetings. Really.
And yes Mallika it has been 16 years. Infact I do recall you having a birthday of your own while we were in Cambridge and I clearly remember us celebrating at a local disco!
And I dont believe you were of drinking age at the time.........Uhmn :) Then just a few years later you're working for MTV. I knew you always had a little rock and roll in ya! Grey hairs wont stop you dead in your tracks, that's for sure.
Happy early birthday greeting to you, Mallika.
Love, ML

Thank you all for your birthday greetings. Really.
And yes Mallika it has been 16 years. Infact I do recall you having a birthday of your own while we were in Cambridge and I clearly remember us celebrating at a local disco!
And I dont believe you were of drinking age at the time.........Uhmn :) Then just a few years later you're working for MTV. I knew you always had a little rock and roll in ya! Grey hairs wont stop you dead in your tracks, that's for sure.
Happy early birthday greeting to you, Mallika.
Love, ML

At least you have hair - there should be some measure of comfort in that.

I'm concerned that at age 35!! one considers old and concerns of grey hairs etc .. I am 58 years young and work much with the aged and demented ..and would suggest "get over it" and go sit with REALLY old people to get it into perspective!
Each day as I work with these people I feel young, strong and still full of hope for the years to come!

Mallika, when is your birthday? Please let me know, as I'd like to make you a card too, and some notice is nice!

North

North:
Mallika's birthday is on July 25. :)

Ooh, Mallika is a Leo!! Not sure why that makes me happy; but, it's nice knowing I'm not the only lioness here at Intentblog, for some profound reason. I am Aug.7th. WE are star-sisters Mallika!!(please don't puke eh?)giggles(

YOU< of course, being born close to the cusp of cancer-leo; so you are more cancer-leo; I am more leo; though I find I have cancer-traits, as well as those of Virgo.

Did you know, the eo sign is the only sign in the zodiac with both the yin and yang ability, in equal measure? The other 11 signs have only one or the other.

Not sure what all that means; but, it's brought to my attention when people learn I am a leo; and if they have any knowledge of the zodiac; which I do not profess to know.

No wonder, we Leo's are so resiliant though, eh!

North

Hi Mallika!
I am extremely embarrassed about the goof up!!! Please accept my humble apologies. :)

It's actually like this - I am in the middle of reading *intentBlog archives these days. I got to know about *intentBlog only in March or April '06 & so had missed all the insightful posts till then. (I feel like a school girl who has a lot of work to catch up with !) :)

On July 25 2005, you were reflecting on "Life Stages" as it was your birthday. I missed Kanika Sethi's comment there & so this confusion! I am sorry about that. Please forgive me. :)

I hope North makes a note of this. I will write a special note to her though.

I can never miss to remember (!) any birthdays in "July". :) u can guess why... :) :) :)

Love & God bless!

P.S. I have tried my best to write *intentBlog's name in the manner that's closest to how it actually is. Wanted to spruce up the spirit in the very name of the only blog that I have managed to really stick with! :) Did u notice that? :)

Thanks Swear(wink) and Mallika for the verification of date!

North

Hi Mallika, So your b-day corresponds with the Blog's bday...cool....Hope you are starting to celebrate....make it last and have fun!

Love, Joanie

Blog birthday is June 23, isn't it? I think that's the date of the first blogged post?

North

Joanie, I just checked, and ti's indeed, June 23rd?

Don't be going and getting me all confused now sista!

North

LOL, After I hit the post button, I realized I had the dated screwed up....OOPS!

That's ok Joanie; I"m ON the ball...

North

If nobody else ever looked at you would it matter? It sounds like you are doing what you want to do if you weren't then why would you be doing it? You could be like me and have no responsibility but also no one to go home to. Is someone telling you to think something you don't want to? You don't have to get involved in the world's problems. You should take a little time for yourself every day to frolick about. Even as a child you worried about others. I hope you don't have any regrets about your life because many people would trade you for theirs in an instant, gratitude is a good thing. Hopefully one day you'll grow wiser and have more and more stories and love and experiences to share with the rest of the world after all it's just grey hair.

I'm only 26 years old and I started getting my grey hair already! Its stressing me out something horrible... One thing it did do for me is make me a whole lot more conscience about my health... Since the greys have been grouping together, I started working out at the gym, went for colon hydro therapy, stopped smoking, and started eating healthier along with taking a ton of herbal supplements for anti-aging... I'm also using emu oil based shampoos and have consulted with a dermatologist to see if it is scalp related... So far no luck, but I am extremely proactive about this problem of mine... What bothers me even more is this girl I've been seeing is alot younger than me and I feel as if the more noticable it gets the more she'll think "what the hell am I doing with this old guy?" So your not alone Mallika, at least your in your 30's... I'm still trying to find my way and grey hair is turbo charging my ambition, yet depressing the hell out of me...