Hi Gotham,

Call up some producers and give them your critiques of their work.

haha. Then you won't be bored...

I hear you young man!

You have the chance to carry on a heavenly heritage Gotham; you really do brother.

Use it!

Well this would pass too & while it lasts enjoy it to the maximum!!God Bless!

Join us for a drink. Its my birthday on Tuesday 11th-I'll be in New York-this w/e! :-)

I used to be the same. Its funny, I grew up in a noisy, full house, guests always around-infact I think for a period of five years-I didn't aleep in my own bed-as we always had people coming in and out of the house and staying with us. I shared houses throughout unviersity and once I started working in London. When I came out to India-and it was the first time that I was actually going to live on my own, I was nervous about it (that I would feel lonely)but my friend's told me that once I got used to my solitude, I would revel in it. Its so true now. I love it. Sometimes, over the w/e when people are calling to go out etc etc, I just don't answer. I like quiet time to myself, winding down, pottering around. My house is an open house and I enjoy people staying with me-but then, as you say, after a while you want your space back. The fact is that you can dip in and out; if I want to be alone I can, if not I don't have to be.

I know I've come a long way in the last few years-because I'm happy with my own company and others-but mostly I enjoy it.

The only thing is when you start talking to yourself-then its time to get out of the house! lol (just kidding)

Immerse yourself in the web. You won't feel lonely. I do that whenever I am left alone in the house.

I also used to enjoy the silence in past very much then i lost it but nowadays, i am again regaining it. Just a little patience & watching of breath & being in the moment does the work.

I will suggest that it's better to try any meditation technique than blogging but blogging can also be meditation but it shouldn't be used as an escape from one's inner emptiness. ; - )

Cheers, Rohit

Dear GC,
Is this a subtle invitation to your ex-girlfriends to call you while your wife is away? LOL. ;)

Cheers!
Navin

Few things can match the feeling of being alone. The senses settle into repose oh so slowly and allow you to stir the magic liquid of observation ever so slightly in your head, and wait. Just wait. Beats getting sloshed to socks and continuously wobbling towards the gents' in loud pubs any day.

"The only society is oneself."
- Oscar Wilde

Hi Gotham,
Really? You feel lonely? Aren't you plenty busy with your work, and all the new present and future projects? I think you miss your wife because you have a beautiful and strong bond with her. That's wonderful.

If I were you I'd keep busier, so time will go by faster. The father of a friend of mine is known for saying often, "The busier you are, the more blessed you are." He is a lawyer, an award-winning musician, a spiritual counselor, and writes weekly columns on spiritual subjects. I hope that when I'll be his age I'll be as
busy and productive as he is. Also in meditation, as you know, there is no time. Maybe you could meditate until she comes back. :)
Love,
Donatella

Mindfullness meditation is the only antidote to self chatter or mental static in my view. Too much silence can be as troublesome as being in the marketplace. Occupational therapy of one or another kind should help.

Gotham, please read my comment on your previous blog. Please talk to me. Interact with the bloggers for a change please.

You and Candice are like two peas in a pod. She is probably missing you as much as you are, if not more. What is she doing in India?? Isn't she doing residency in surgery??

I really liked,"How to know God". Mallika and you co-produced it, right??Who was the director?? It reminded me of,"What the bleep".

I love to blog, don't see any harm in it, it is a lot of fun, especially when the contributor participates in the dialogue.

My dog Penny was missing for 36 hours a few weeks ago. I was miserable. I cried, called all my neighbors, looked everywhere, went to the animal shelter, drove Lena crazy. Next morning she came back. I kept asking her where she had gone, did some one take her, all she did was look at me with her soulful eyes and wag her tail. I sure love her, and I know she loves me.

God bless you Gotham.

Dear Gotham, My son leaves for college next month, and soon I'll be going through much of the same you are now... only, my son won't be coming back after a month-more like, 3 years.

I have not been alone for 30 years; and though I do not mind my own company, and that I keep busy; I don't have a doggy, so who/what am I going to talk to? lol

maybe I'll go buy myself a stuffed big bear?

North

Now you know why God created people. You think you got it bad all he had was a void.

Hi Gotham,

I can totally relate. As a kid I was a complete loner and would often spend whole days by myself wandering the quiet beaches or forests of Lake Winnipeg (where I grew up). After I had been married for a few years (and 4 children) I started to get antsie when they were gone too long. Having said that, the last few years have settled a bit and it's gotten easier (and pleasant again) being by myself.

All things seem to come full circle. I've found "alone time" helps me to enjoy the "not alone" time alot more.

Peace,
Scott.

Sounds like a great opportunity to turn off the television for a month. :)

Love, Kristin

the grass is always greener
:)

I love being alone as well. Can't cope unless I get sometime to myself at least once a day. BUt I love Chaos more I think. I love the noise, and energy and chatter, social gatherings (although those can feel like work sometimes). I love street noises and living close to the core of the city. Feels less lonely than the suburbs- suburbia is really scary and empty for me. I love the comfort that comes with being with people that you love and really enjoy. I can see why you miss her.

Its so funny to me when I speak to people about where they see themselves in 20 or 30 years, I inevitably get the same response " living simply, surrounded by nature, on a beach,and a quiet peaceful...." That just doesnt do it for me.

I just could not imagine that bringing me much joy. In small doses yes and even meditation but the reality is I love the energy that Chaos brings.

Gotham,
When you are used to having another person or people around all the time it takes a little time to adapt to being alone. For me it's sometimes about 3 hours, which leaves me wondering, how long before you relaxed into your time? I sometimes identify a little aching feeling in that situation and then focus on it and feel it completely until it goes away. It usually doesn't take long before I take a deep breath and savor the solitude. I think the sudden lack of distraction allows us to step back and observe what exists absent of the familiarity of interactions with other people and things, and if we can do it without judgement we can learn so much. Don't you think?
Peace,
Mary Ann

I have been through similar situation before.

I think the brief separation strengthens the love and affection for one another and keeps the relationship alive. It helps to know that we still love and care for one another.

Poetry from “The shades of his evening” by Rahul Pandita.
Post#49. Posted by dhaba on July 7, 2006 09:48 AM

his wife leaves him again.
not this time for forever
for he says he loves her
and will love her
forever and forever.
she leaves him whenever
she has free time.

the fact is,
though outwardly he seems
to be a dude of some
manners and some brains,
he is in fact a boor.
he pesters her continually.

so he calls his sister
and complains,"she left me again."
"left you again. again and again."
he hears this in his ears.
his sister is not surprised
knowing what her lil brother is

so she feels pity for him
and invites him to dinner.
he accepts it readily and
shows up an hour before time.

he sits on the sofa and
and asks what's for the dinner.
next moment, little cute Meera
barely 15 months with her front
teeth cutting, still potty training
on a little cute baby pink toilet
with pictures of bears and
micky mice on it, comes
rushing to the living room,
from her little toilet room
hearing her dear chacha at home,
with handful of shit smiling
and showing to her chacha
saying," chacha, chacha,
shee, sheet, sheet here,"
bringing her little cute hands
full of shit close to his face
and giggling, giggling, giggling
"hee, hee, hee, heeeeee!"

I would aimlessly browse these two sites until my ass hurts

http://clipmarks.com/exchange
http://digg.com/spy/queue

Then I'd go watch TV, and then come back to read the chatter on IB.

This is my continuous loop until my wife arrives, then I have no choice: mujhay meri biwi say bachao.....God....these bollywood producers are really good when they come up with classic movie names.

wow so it's been a while since i've been back to this blog...moved to manhattan, just started residency, and in the process of starting all business with my investors in the last 2 wks!

i too find it hard to be alone, since it's much easier to be out with someone, talk on the phone, online, or even be wrapped up with incessant internal thoughts. it is the by- product of a crazy, busy lifestyle.

i have begun to make a conscious effort to be alone and focus on becoming re-centered and in a state of thoughtless-ness as often as possible though. it is this space that generates the creative potential for everything that can manifest in your life. it is also here that all old wounds, unconscious emotions, and negative karma are erased.

i never thought i would believe in that kind of thing, or even see it have any real influence in my life, but it's SO true and so important.

the time i spend in meditation (even though i have to force myself to do it sometimes) is the most critical aspect of my life, and i can't even begin to describe the major changes in my life and happiness that accessing the untapped, infinite potential of the universe has brought me.

anyway, just wanted to stress how beneficial it is, so turn off the tv and get back to it when you can!

alright, time to take a nap...going to the madonna concert in the the Garden this weekend and to the Hamptons weekend after that...i love NYC =)

nyc..whats'up with ..
you people..
bricks suck!
but then again..
;)
anyhow,
back to the subject,

lone-ly-ness,
Gotham, at least you're married..;)
but seriously,
yeah, know what you mean,
Zen, blablabla.. silence..
then what?

Love, Passion!

Subject:
From:
To:
Date: Fri, 7 Jul 2006 15:04:49 +0300

Hello my dear,

my friend sent me this morning a letter with really nicely said words.
When I read that then it made me smile. So I thought that I should also send it to you. In my opinion the ending is really good.


As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love.

So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

someone wants to know
how to be on Weekly Intent.
simple. send to Intentblog your content.

but tell something interesting
tell something funny
tell something we don't know
tell something to make us grow

don't tell us all old nonsense
not layers of souls and dark ghouls
nor stories of Sita and Ram
by some story like 'thank you mam'
of a manly man loving wham wham

Admin.,
Please delete comments 27 and 28. 27 is being re-posted at another blog -Rahul Pandita's blog.
Thanks.

Being alone sometime might work in our favor as one can use this time to collect their thoughts, work out their issues, and get everything clear in their mind. However, being lonely is sad.

The fact that we have a fewer close friends and confidants than just two decades ago - a sign that people may be living lonelier, more isolated lives than in the past. Reasons being that we spend more time at work, commuting, use more entertainment tools like TVs, iPods, computers and leaving less time to socialize or join groups.

I just got back from Mumbai, India after spending couple of years on an assignment. Initially I was very reluctant as my families live in the US and I had no one in India.

The city which is dirty, polluted from unbearable 2-wheelers; mosquito, over populated etc, however, people seemed lot less lonely than people living in the west. They are hospitable, and within their means like to socialize and make new friends. Simple things like taking a stroll within their residential compound, planning activities or going for movies, etc gives them an opportunity to hang out together which is also a great way to fight loneliness. One year was just a breeze for me. So, make time to socialize.

Gotham, I am so proud of Candice for the service she is providing in India. Thank you for talking to me. God bless.

Yeah we're killing ourselves with our left brain lifestyle and nobody does that better than people in the west.

I would very much like to see " How to know God"
Where can one go to see it? Is it avaialable in DVD or video?

Keep up the good work gothem.
Love Michael

Dear Shakra,

What do you mean like people in the West? I constantly hear criticism of 'people in the West'. I'm not sure why western people are more selfish and less spiritual or less lonely than people in the east? Seriously, from what I have seen in India, the incessant complaining, never satisfied with what they have-intrusive, even though there is an extended family system)extreme loneliness amongst the older generation the list goes on. Some of the kindest people I have known in my life and the most inspirational are 'Western'.

Forgive my irritation-but people from the East are not always more spritually inclined.

Loneliness is a state of mind. You can be lonely even if you are in a relationship-most of us have been there.

Marek, your #25 was awesome!!

North

Hi Kamini..How are you doing? Long time ago, abt 200yrs back there was a large meteorite which crashed into the east coast of America(rt side of america)becoz of which people in the west have lost that side and since then have become left hemisphere dominated. Kidding!:) Actually, what he says is quite true Kamini, but what you say again is also very true.

We never say India is filled with saints and the most loving people you will find, even though it's got a rich spiritual heritage. Ria brought out some wonderful points though in contrast to yours...both are true..two ends of the spectrum. West is Brilliant, Beautiful in its own ways....East is the same in its own ways.

But East&West...home is best..and home is where the heart is. So...wherever your heart feels rt, that is the best.

Take care..Sachin:)

Yeah I'm saying the ego is bigger in the west, the earopean-american white man is farther into the left brain than any other race of people, even though the rest of the world is catching up the west is still in the lead. They figure in 20 years depression will be the biggest disease in the modern world because we're losing our ability to have healthy relationships or even just get along with each other. It's like in the movie the Matrix where at the end Agent Smith has managed to take over the world, being the matrix and he has turned everyone into a clone of him, well that's what's happening to the world, soon everyone will be a Jackass! (no offense)

p.s. but I'm sure there are still some good people out there I'm just trying to make apoint about the state of the human mind and the way we do things.

It's like you know when Rodney King said "Why can't we all just get along" and everyone laughed. Kina sums it up don't you think.

Its pretty hard for me to be alone. Get this awful feeling of loneliness easily. Although I do wanna have my space, but I get lonely then. It used to be different in India though, you're always surrounded by family and friends, that feeling just doesn't crop in there. As a kid I always thought I'd move out before I am 18 and live on my own.. but even now in university, I need roommates, cannot live on my own alone. Its scary when I see/meet/read about really old single people here, who spent their last 20 years alone!

I dunno, I have been fighting it for a couple of years now.. I think I need to meditate more.

Shakra,

Totally agree with you that depression is a serious modern day disease-and becoming more so in all in societies, but also increasingly in socities where there is so called an extended family situation. The depression is related to frustration, repression, extreme neglect and loneliness in eastern culture. Many women can be found suffering from depression in these cultures in trying to come to terms with living one life and trying to remain their own person, with their own identities-but being forced to live another.

Nice Sachin..."and home is where the heart is"
sounds soooo simple, but it does resonate in the deepness of your true self.

Gotham, maybe volunteer at a shelter or a seniors home....or somewhere There are lots of people who are in desperate need of conversation and caring...and you are so good at it!

Cinda

Yeah Cinda True! One has to know where one's heart is. Rt now...don't feel very good abt these bombs in mumbai and kashmir. Mumbai has been taking lot of brunt in the last few yrs. Don't know why!

The word solo reminds me of an apt incident, ex co- worker of mine (ad. copywriter) named Solo did a Wedding card for himself, which read " Don't call me Solo anymore"

:-)

Aaron

{{{warm embrace to you Sachin}}} and all the others who are upset and worried about this. I do have family in India also... not in the same area, but we are all connected to one another, in some shape or form.

Take Care,
Cinda

The human race is very confused Kamini, and it's really not that hard a problem to fix. Where there's anxiety teach them skills to cope with it, where there's depression teach them skills to cope with it which by the way are the same skills, where there's stress teach them skills to cope with it which by the way are the same skills. Personality disorders like depression arise out of not having those coping skills, skills you have to be taught by someone who knows how to teach them, which most parents don't. If the parent won't learn them then neither will the children and so the cycle continues. Some will say "I have all the answers inside me" well how do you find them then and wouldn't it be faster to just let someone teach them to you so you can stop searching, wasting your present moment. The ego was created by anxiety so the solution is pretty simple isn't it? As far as culture goes when the human race deals with the ego they will understand the soul and we will become one religion based on relationships with each other not an interpretation of God.

Yeah Thanks for the Embrace Cinda. Back to you(((Cinda))). Yesterday's blast was a big one. Callousness and Complacency have become part of human lives here. It's on and on and on.

Take care..Sachin

Being alone I know what is it too. It's summer here in Canada. I jumped out of my hurrican of spinning ideas. I was relaxing on my bed... felling the fresh air passing through the window... birds singing...

A few minutes before my head was popping ideas without stopping... and now, surprised, I was feeling very good, very relaxed... everything was slow but strongly in life. My thoughs was like everything around, slow, but vivid. I was thinking about my daughter, her graceful face, her clear and lovely voice; "Papa... Papa locoooo...". The air was transporting a really fine and sweet smell; a potpourri of the best presences in the air.

These tears on my face mean something... Well what I found today is that I am not living my deeps desires, my deep needs. Instead, my head was creating a "presence of thoughs" to patch the hole! God!!! The hole... is big!

You right sweety when you say; "Blablabla..."
Dad will have to jump in the hole to balance everything.

Dear Shakra,

i thinkin a Utopian society we could talk about one religion being based on human relationshsips. However, as long as you have personality, you have ego, and as long as you have ego, you have self imposed expectations. I would not call depression a personality disorder, I would say that it can be either physiological, or an emotional state where you cannot cope with specific situations in life. We are not mentally or emotionally strong all the time-and that's what makes us human. We cannot cope sometimes with what life hurls at us. Yes, granted, some can appear to cope better than others, but inevitably under immense pressure we all crumble.

I disagree that the human race is confused. Most people get on with life and get on with living-what I find in the West is that this is more the norm, than in the East. In the East you have many people who have had to live out a life which was not necessarily one that they wanted to live out-but have been restricted by society, or people, and their own self has been repressed. So I see alot of very unhappy people here around me in India. I'm not saying that people in the West are all happy and content. But the level of contentment is different. At the end of the day we are all striving to achieve some sort of level of contentment, this not only changes with age and priorities, but also is a result of what we have to face in life.

It sounds like you need a good ol day of extended silence like your father suggests. Perhaps a full day? Simply watch your mind as it wrestles and twists before finally giving in to peace!

It sounds like you need a good ol day of extended silence like your father suggests. Perhaps a full day? Simply watch your mind as it wrestles and twists before finally giving in to peace!