Hi Suchitra,

Rs 15 lakhs (one-and-a-half-million rupees) by no stretch of the imagination is a sum to be sneezed at. You sure seem to have got your rupees coming easy!

But I wonder if you could’ve accepted this assignment on the condition that they pay the money to the NGO “Saathi” that you patronize. That sort of money would go a long way in bringing succor to those hapless women who have no one to turn to.

Sanjeev

quite distrubing Suchitra, to know that your privacy was invaded.... and it does give cause for concern, for the many women/girls/families; without the strength & courage to say NO to such a generous proposal...

I do hope, you will post a picture of your new painting when it's completed?

North

Hi Suchitra,

That was the worst of the experiences one can have.

I am sure that even while posting it down you must have felt very negative/angry.

I call that as fear of unknown. Someone out of the blue, unexpectedly, unknown, persistently pestering you in the middle of the work that you love so much. And this seems to be your first experience of this kind.

Is it? Some people can’t deal with people they don’t know, some people cant deal with people on the phone without a face to face meet, some people can’t deal with persistent people talking grossly.

I mean the guy might be very legitimate, but the approach was absolutely hopeless and he might have just forgotten about it but you still think about that incidence.

I have seen people dealing cool-ly with threat calls, just an attitude thing, I cant do that. I get nervous on such un-identified calls, because I don’t know how to react and then it just blows everything. But this can be controlled with conscious effort.

But I feel that you are known, you have a value associated to your face and your name, so there will be more such incidences in future. You should be tough enough to deal with these kind of people.

Am I too hard here?

I have this feeling about myself–

Why some lame guy should spoil your time over a few of phone calls, why someone else should control how I should react. I will decide how I will react.

I wish you good luck.

Ashutosh

That's so creepy.
I am sure he won't call you again.
Love,
Donatella

Suchitra, I'm sorry, but I don't quite understand. Was it someone who wanted you to do advertising? Or do you maybe mean that it was someone who wanted to pay you for sexual services?

You seem to be very upset about it- but why? In what way does this affect you? What does it have to do with you? If you are not interested, then you are not. But why such a strong reaction? Strong reactions come from inside, and we need to look and see what's causing them... it usually is some image of ourselves that we are clinging to, something we are denying. If you are searching for God, you won't be able to leave any stone unturned...

dear Suchitra

it seems strange to me that someone offering that much money would contact you with no priors, without contacting your agent or lawyer -- if this person were straight up, he would have gone through normal channels. your instinctive reaction feels right, to me. i hope Shekhar realizes how at risk you are, and puts more protection in place around you.

love, heather

Suchitra, when the hair on the back of your neck started standing, when you perceived a threat, your level of discomfort, tells me that this call was a threatening call, unpleasant call, potentially dangerous call. I wish, you had taken his number down and reported him. But I probably would have gotten off the phone asap too. I am sorry for you.God bless.

Suchitra,

I wouldn't worry, Just Be Aware.

In One sense you created it. To get your attention.

I once wrote two weeks non stop, very little sleep. I created a whole entire web site etc in a state of heightened awareness.

You painted for two weeks non stop, you were connected.

That part of your Self must be trying to get your attention, and heighten your awareness.

Perhaps you have forgotten something.

Keep divine intent and follow your impulses.

Do not act on fear thoughts, they are not from the source.

@ klumzyklutz,

You seem to have commented on the presumption that the gentleman caller was indeed offering an advertisement assignment. Should that have been the case, I am sure, Suchitra would have atleast considered the project.

If you did not have that presumption and you did, indeed, realise that the gentleman caller was pestering Suchitra as a middleman for a 'foreign party' customer for her sexual favours, then I sincerely hope you are not suggesting that Suchitra should have considered taking up the project just so that 'Saathi' could have gained that money?!!!???

Suchitra,
The power of money, the arrogance of the masculine and the perception of the film, modelling and advertising industry is such. It is perceived that everyone has a price for anything. You pay the price,you get the service.

It is common talk amongst the 'bollywood' male buffs out here in the US, discussing the 'price' of most, if not all, actresses (film or tv) who come across from India to take part in the musicc shows that are so popular.

As I said, the power of money, the arrogance and the perception. A confused Troika!

Suchitra.. a call to the police may help reveal the caller. They will contact the phone company. Any calls to your number would be accessible to them. This man, can then be interogated, on how he got your private number, and from whom?

Just to make aware--mom's also fear for their male children, in this perverted world of pedophilia running so rampantly worldwide, and getting much, much worse and gruesome. Male children are just as prone to abuse as girl children.

As such, I was very protective of my son.. and protected him just as much as I would have protected a daughter.

North

Suchitra, if you know someone in Canada or the USA, I would recommend you purchase a phone number/name viewer, called: InfoGlobe. It is a round, blue ball shape, with text that turns round and round. When your phone rings, look at the globe, it is showing you the name/number!!

I bought my son one last year, for his Birthday...maybe Christmas(6 weeks apart) and we had it set up in the main room. He left for college a few days ago, taking his infoglobe.. and boy, do I miss it!!

It can be bought at The Source Stores, formerly known as radio shack. They cost around seventy dollars(Canadian), but I got my son's on sale for fifty dollars!! : )

I am currently saving to buy myself one.. so far, I got five dollars saved.. at this rate, could take me a while! lol

You have to have "call viewing" service capability from your phone company..

North

Suchitra:

It is a very interesting post - just the other day I saw you discussing the question of "casting couch" with Archana on "Kandy Floss".

Was just wondering if you could have asked the pimp to identify the "party".... and blogged about him in public!! That would have served him right!! I mean for a person who was willing to pay $7000/hour ... he would be a fairly well-known "gentleman" in the NRI community anyways.. would be kinda important to know who he is.. isnt it?

Cheers,
Desh
Drishtikone.com

Suchitra,

I think a police complaint could still help. Unlisted or otherwise, I think it is still possible to get the calling number and location if taken up as a police investigation. It would also help in case the twerp persists.

How I long for the day when women realize that there is no "enemy". All these men we call names and who make us angry or disgusted... oh, what an illusion. How can any man humiliate a woman who is anchored in her power ?

Our power lies not in pointing fingers and declaring someone a monster. It lies in taking responsibility for the victim role we have collectively played, and realize that it is IN OUR OWN power to refuse to continue.

Not anger... no. Anger is a reaction to feeling abused, hopeless, weak, threatened. Anger means you think you can be abused. You don't have to become angry and "go to war" if you are completely aware of your power and worth. If someone, like the man in this story, has different values than yours, and still believes in the old image of women who let themselves be abused... let him go in peace, with a blessing. Put your efforts into findng your own responsibility and power, and help other women access that power. If all women wake up, there will be no victim around to abuse, and we will all, men and women, wake up from this illusion.

Don't teach your daughters to be victims... There is no agressor out there if you refuse to perceive yourself as agressed, if you refuse to accept the label of victim. Don't teach your children to propagate war by accusing the other sex of their own perceived weakness. Teach them that they are invincible, because that's what they are, through the power of their natural love for all people. We are all powerful beyond measure, if we stop pointing fingers and take a real look at who we are.

Suchitra, the nice thing about the globe, is you can see who is calling from across the room : ) This way, you don't have to put down your brush, when you are working, to pick up the phone, to see who is calling.

It is about the size of a ball of bread dough, and connects to the phone. It is a blue round globe, on a silver stand(attached) and the text goes around the globe. It is blue, and the text is lighted.

I hope you have regained a sense of safety, Suchitra.

Aurora, the only problem with teaching is; if the student isn't taking the class's, they don't understand the lessons.

North

Hello North,

I think that our children can't avoid learning the lessons we offer them by the way we live. Children are always conditioned early in life, and have no choice about it. The choice comes much later, when we start to become aware that we have been conditioned.

Hi Aurora....but, we cannot fool ourselves into believing that everybody has the capability to become self-aware. To believe such, would be premature; and somewhat then becomes judgemental of those, whom cannot achieve self-awareness; to be able to change childhood conditionings.

Can we ask a blind man, to describe a night sky?

North

Wherever I look, North, I see human beings and other life forms that are evolving toward more self awareness. Everyone in their own way. When you look at a tree in winter, you might think green leaves are an impossibility. But it's already happening, and there's no need to hurry :)

Everyone has moments of self-awareness; however, it takes a great deal more cognitive ability, to hone in on that ability; to keep it as a "constant."

I have spent a great many years, unconditioning childhood conditionings... not unlike anyone else, it is a struggle worth walking through...

I am not here, to be like you, Deepak or anyone else... I am only here, to parlay my experiences, much like anyone else.

IF I fall far below some "measurement" of intelligence or mental strength.. then that is what/who I am, and as such, I will continue....

North

Hmmm I don't know North may be right, not everyone (as in their character) by a vast number will become self aware.

I am starting to think a lot of "characters" on this planet are like filler people, conditioned units of behavior. That will never wake up in this dream.

I think there is a group that will, and they will inherit the earth and a new reality.

Then again, perhaps we can wake every one up with a lot of awareness and deconstruction...

The meek shall inherit the earth..

what do you believe this to construe, Richard?

to me.. it will be the ignorant to inherit the earth.. the intelligent one's seem to only exploit it, and its inhabitants...(wink.)

Are teachers exploiting people through teachings?

Do they do it because they care so much about me, you or anyone? no!! Teaching is a career, and as such, holds no merit of experience... only taught lessonings from others experience.

One must experience suffering, to understand it's grasp.

Does Deepak know what it's like to be like me? I should say not. Just like I have no perception of what it would be like, to be him.

But, at least, I do not try to convince him to be like "me" ....I give him the freedom, to be who his is.

Sadly, teachers do not give same...they expect/judge, and in doing so, condemn.

North

Hi RJ,

Apropos of your post # 9, I did indeed write what I wrote in my post # 1 on the presumption that the caller was making an offer for a genuine modeling assignment to Suchitra. I did mention the world “assignment” in my post, didn’t I? Perhaps because I was the first one to post, I didn’t think on the lines of the caller being a pimp. It simply didn’t cross my mind. I could never imagine that anyone, even with a withheld number, would dare so far as soliciting amorous favors from someone of Suchitra’s stature for a price!

But perhaps with what happened to Bipasha Basu on her recent visit to the US on the Indian Independence Day, I should’ve known better!

If indeed he was a pimp, the guy needs to be put behind bars.

Sanjeev

Well North every group has it's exceptions.

When I say meek I do not mean weak or quiet, or unintelligent. They are those that see the self or are at a level of consciouness that they tend not produce conflict. Those that do produce conflict may very well bring themselves to an end but the conflict that they create.

Mankind is a part of nature, and it always brings itself to a balance.

True enough, Richard; therefore we must accept the fact, that for every billion intelligent people, we have an equal billion non-intelligent people...

This is where I believe teachers, guru's; merely use their intelligence to exploit the one billion non-intelligents, and call it "career."

North

Hi North,

You seems to be carrying negative impression about teachers/gurus. All are not exploiters.

Cheers, Rohit

HI Rohit,

Yes, and it shall be my own undoing; You see, I am in the prime center of having walked away from fifty years of living in belief systems and "adapted behaviour" and from that bleeding, only show my open wound.. it is not pretty, I know, rebirth, never is..

therefor I am sorry I failed to make the mention, that not all guru's are exploiting the weak; and to re-state it this way; one must take as much care in choosing a belief, as they would in a family prized home and car... and what I have given witness to in my fifty years of life, is that there are many, many false prophets.

The only "true source" is our own wisdom...it is as close to our center, as we will ever become in this human evolution of mind and universe.

North

Rohit, I have read your blog, and feel embarassed I did not respond; just know.. I had not answers/questions...

you said everything about "center" of self..

I could add.. nothing more.

Wise beyond your years...

North

Sweet North,

Lovely to hear that. I'm just exploding with the feeling of love inside me right now.

Everything is an illusion wounds/gurus/paths/many years of waste....as you have mentioned that our own wisdom matters...so, just chill! ; - )

hugs, Rohit

Well then North we need to upgrade the people.

We can start with....

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