Sandeep Sood - March 09, 2007
Mira Nair talks about her new movie, The Namesake, on Fresh Air. Early in the interview, she hits on what I've always admired about successful arranged marriages:
"It's an exquisite love story of an adult romance...of people I know of from my parents' generation... who are content to be still...who don't need roses and diamonds and hallmark cards and 'I love yous' and proclamations and public displays of love.
It is more about how (they) look at each other over a cup of tea...kind of a stillness and contentment between the two, which is in such stark contrast to...all our lives today, our multi-tasking sort of lives."
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Posted by Sandeep Sood at March 9, 2007 10:28 PM
Ok, I googled The Namesake after writing my comment above to read reviews, and found an article that summarized many of the reviews. Glad to see that the larger public is indeed connecting to this film. Congratulations Mira Nair!
The New York Times said the film 'conveys a palpable sense of people as living, breathing creatures who are far more complex than their words might indicate.'
'The story of upwardly mobile immigrants torn between tradition and modernity as they are absorbed into the American melting pot has been told in countless movies. This variation is gentle and compassionate. The longing for roots of these displaced middle-class Indians lends a soulful undertow to a film conspicuously lacking in melodrama.'
'Its steady, unhurried pace, its fascination with the rituals of daily life and its deep respect for characters who are continually evolving lift 'The Namesake' above high-end soap opera. It may lack epic grandeur, but by the end you feel you know these people well enough to keep in step with their internal rhythms,' it said.
The Los Angeles Times said, 'Mira Nair has repeatedly enacted tales of culture clash in her films but never with quite as much warmth and thoughtfulness as she brings to 'The Namesake.'
'Coming off a botched literary adaptation - the garbled, proto-feminist take on William Makepeace Thackeray's 'Vanity Fair' - she turns her attention to a novel that is not only more manageably scaled but also, for this expatriate filmmaker, surely closer to home.'
'Despite being rooted in knotty issues of identity, Lahiri's novel forgoes didacticism in favour of vivid portraiture. Nair and her uniformly superb cast take the same tack: The characters are individuals before they are emblems,' it said.
Entertainment Weekly's Owen Gleiberman said, 'When a director is as humane as Mira Nair, it's easy to think of her gift as the 'simple' ability to bathe everyone on screen in a glow of understanding.'
'Nair's work is certainly empathic (and also funny and sexy and rueful), yet watching The Namesake, her moving and marvellous new cross-cultural family saga, I was struck by the nearly sculptural skill with which she expresses that spirit.'
Variety said, 'Bolstered by Nair's lush visual style and superb performances from ace Bollywood thesps Irrfan Khan, Tabu and 'Harold and Kumar' star Kal Penn (in his first dramatic lead), Fox Searchlight can expect above-average arthouse business for this audience-pleasing March release.'
'Penn-who has long seemed one of the brightest and most likable young comic talents around-shows serious dramatic chops as he takes us on Nick/Gogol's expansive odyssey from the proverbial American-Born Confused Desi to a confident young man with a sure sense of his past, his present and his future,' it said.
Newsday said, Nair and screenwriter Sooni Taraporevala, 'who have lavished affectionate detail upon this adaptation of Jhumpa Lahiri's bestselling novel, reassert the power of the personal and the specific to speak to the greatest number of hearts.'
'The actors are so engaging and the settings often so seductive, we pleasurably submit to what is essentially a two-hour penance for all the hurt and wrongs one has ever inflicted upon one's parents. 'The Namesake' may be the loveliest guilt trip you will ever take,' it said.
Premiere found the film 'a thoroughly engaging, terrifically moving family story that's rich in beautifully observed and lovingly conveyed human detail.'
The New York Post said, '...this gorgeously designed and photographed movie artfully depicts the immigrant experience in ways that transcend its setting, melding Hollywood and Bollywood storytelling techniques to weave a tale a large audience will relate to.'
'Penn's charismatic, loose-limbed work as the confused Gogol helps Nair avoid the earnestness that afflicts so many films of this kind, and he's quite capable of handling the big dramatic moments as well. You don't have to be Indian to love 'The Namesake,' it said.
New York Daily News found the film 'suffused with radiant grace, and manages to be old-fashioned yet immediate, epic and intimate.'
And 'metroblog: movies' called it 'a labour of love by a talented filmmaker; if only Nair had adopted a less-is-more approach to her adaptation, her very good film might have been a great one.'
Hi
I simply loved the book and cant wait to see the movie.. i don't know when its going to release in India.
The book was excellent. Wonderful writer. From what I heard they didn't screw it up with the movie. I'm glad and surprised to see that it made it to the screen. I know Lahiri also has a book of short stories and I've been looking out for a new novel. I don't read many novels anymore but picked this one up and made a good buy.
Hi Sandeep,
It always amaze me when Indian women talk in favor of arranged marriages.
If you look at other perspective,arranged marriages are somewhat not so good treatment of women. In fact It's based on compromise and I guess, women normally end up compromising more than men in Male dominant Indian society.
So, may be
Either Indian women who favors arranged marriage are brainwashed about it
or I am not smart enough to understand Arraigned marriage.
I am sure, people on intentblog will go for me being stupid option(Second option).
-Jignesh
i clicked on the namesake link u provided, and clicked on other related links on the same site u linked above & saw & read an excerpt of the book.
I COULD NOT get myself to stop reading (the one where Ashima is in a hospital, experiencing contractions & is about to give birth).
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=1415693
i am not an indian but my family are in the US and are new immgrants. i am Asian.
the book interests me. i just checked that it iis available in our local bookstore here in Manila. i cant wait to read it. the film is not yet available in our country. i want to read it first though before i see the film.
i am a fan of mira nair since i saw Monsoon Wedding. i love ensemble stories & that film is one of those i hold in high regard.
thanks for introducing namesake to this blog!
The very word 'arranged' implies that you take a pragmatic approach to 'love' not a romantic approach. Grandiose declarations of love do not happen instantly in arranged marriages-because you don't know eachother. I for one believe in the little things in a relationship being much more important than the big things. My parents had an arranged marriage and met for half an hour, married ten days later-and then left India for Libya where my father was working. My mother was 22 and other than leaving her close knit family for university had never been outside India.There were ups and downs, trials and tribulations, much laughter, many tears etc alot of adventure and experiences in many countries. However,I can honestly say that till date-I have not come across a couple who were so compatible in their thinking, sense of fun, attitude to life, family etc. To me they really personified a loving relationship between a man and a woman. Absoultely in tun with one another emotionally, intellectually etc However, on their short honeymoon, my father would tell us the story of how-they were sitting on a mountain in Kashmir-and discussing something topical. My mother disagreed with my father and starting debating with him and contesting his point of view. My father said that he thought to himself-this is going to be an interesting marriage and life. She has an opinion, she voices it and challenges me.
The mortal of the story is that some arranged marriages work and some don't. Some love marriages work and some don't. But it still shocks me the way in the 21st Century, the young, modern generation will still look at a relationship as a business proposal. She must be fair, slim, pious, not too intelligent, working,not working. If you have relationship experience, to go for an arranged marriage is changing the way you look at relationships per se. You are practical, focussing on peripheral factors rather than the person. People are not commodities and committing to someone is the most serious thing anyone can do in their life. What I see around me is how lightly committment is taken and how quickly people dispose of someone who was great on paper but not in reality. Each to their own-but its very difficult to be so practcial about love if you are a passionate person. Anyone who has ever truly been in love-will have already experienced that stillness and contentment. Its all about what you're expectations are from another person.
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i clicked on the namesake link u provided, and
Hi Sandeep,
It always amaze me when India
The book was excellent. Wonderful writer. Fro
Hi
I simply loved the book and cant wait
Sandeep
I was fortunate to see The Namesake earlier this week and hear Mira Nair speak about her passion for this film, and the relationships in it.
I enjoyed the movie, and related to many scenes in the film as an Indian American. There were so many subtleties which were quite powerful. I wonder though if the film will be relateable to a non-Indian audience. After the film, which was screened for an American Hollywood crowd, the most common phrase I heard while waiting for the valet to bring my car was "I really want to visit India." The scenery in the film was great, but the story of the characters were assumably what she was aiming to tell.
I think the way she describes arranged marriages above is beautiful, and you can see in the film, the deep bond and love that is developed between the characters. This love is contrasted to the love marriage later in the film of their son, Gogul, played by Kal Penn.
Would love to hear what people thought of the film. And, the book - which I have not read.
Mallika