Mallika.. well written!!

Rather than turn on the disgust, the feeling of betrayal of trust, and power; we must immediately send him and his victims healing thoughts.

Anand surely; will now live a life; perhaps as difficult as his victims will face.. perhaps justice rules again..and we must accept facts from fiction of status..when a celebrity.

I have been disgusted the past many years, on how the rag-mags and rag-entertainment shows; bleed secrets and falls of celebrities.. as if it's our business; when it's personal.

I was so sickened; on how AnnaNicole's son's death was handled; how every lover Anna ever had was made to sound like they all occured simultaneously.. how the media made her out to be a crazy drug and sex ravaged woman?? even after her son died, IN her giving bearth room? gosh!! I just never seen such professional hyena's as celebrity stalking, gossip... slander.... it's all out of hand, out of control.. and I feel the Britney's, paris's all show the world; just how much; we on earth, have come to allow... I mean geez.. did OJ do it or not? To me, when they dig up a dead child and mother's bones.. they have sunk into a deep, deep dirty ditch.

Unfortunately, men like Anand exist... and it is good, when justice reaches in, and stops it!! All the power, to the women and girls; for the courage and strength, to face thier monster.

North

In these kind of cases, there are four sides of the story; his side, their side, the media, and the truth. I will pray for both.

Namaste

"Hard to believe since there are 12 DIFFERENT WOMEN here."

Don't forget those UNBORN victims, if any.

If you know a young woman thinking of Abortion murder, tell her the plain truth: as she and the jew-in-the-bible-doctor MURDER the child in the womb, the child passes sinless into Heaven. But she is forever a MURDERER and inherits Hell. The Bible is very clear: the MURDERER is forever in Hell, but the child in Heaven never even has a memory that such a vile MONSTER as the mother ever lived. The woman will anguish in hideous pain knowing that she will never see the child she MURDERED.

Sure he needs help.

First he needs to be KEPT AWAY FROM YOUNG WOMEN. No exceptions.

Next he needs help to arrive at the understanding that what he did was absolutely wrong. There is no excuse that forgives it, no reason that justifies it, no circumstances that make it OK. None, Nada. Zip.

When he grasps those truths, then he will be ready start down the path of healing, and eventually, a return to self-acceptance.

He can be transformed, he can heal, and he can become whole.

But not if there's even a shred of denial about what he has done, and what it means about himself.

That cannot be spared.

Otherwise, you're just putting band-aids on a wound that needs major surgery. At best you'll get a deformity. More likely, the wound will open again.

Better to do the therapy correctly, and keep him out of tempting situations until that process is complete, which could be the rest of his life.

I had a friend one time that molested one of my best friend’s granddaughters. I had a hard time at first grappling with it. I knew him well, and he had always appeared to me to be a helpful, caring person.

But I had to face up to the fact that the the events were real, and the child wasn't lying.

It wasn't easy to face that truth, but just think about the cost to the little girl of trying to live the lie of avoidance.

Really, the easier path is to face the truth, even if it seems disconcerting initially.

Mallika Chopra says: Perhaps it is that Anand is Indian. That he has floated in some of the same circles. That he has a mother and sister who sobbed incontrolably at court that this has got under my skin."

"INDIANS"(EAST) ARE THE BIGGEST HYPOCRITICAL SOCIETY EVER KNOWN TO MANKIND.

"I had a friend one time that molested one of my best friend’s granddaughters. I had a hard time at first grappling with it. I knew him well, and he had always appeared to me to be a helpful, caring person."

THIS HARD REALITY OF PREVALENCE OF CHILD MOLESTATION IN INDIAN FAMILIES IS DEPICTED BY MIRA NAIR IN THE MOVIE "THE MONSOON WEDDING"

Mallika Chopra Wonders: Alas, I will still wonder -- did he, could he, really do these terrible things?

If he "did" those terrible things, then obviously he could! Did you think that someone could force him to do those things?

Remember, human beings are capable of doing terrible terrible things than these.

I remember reading a piece of news from a couple of months ago about this well educated business man in India, a seemingly good human being, who molested and killed tens of children and buried them in his backyard. It can't get terrible than this.

Since you seem to show concern for your community, Indian Americans, wondering how a person with Indian values could do such terrible things, I suggest you follow what goes on in Indian homeland: India.

TheWhiteCharger from Great Britain might want to share his/her experiences and help categorize Anand Jon's type of people in his/her humble opinion.

"Love thy Enemies"
Whatever the story may be.
Blessings to All
V

A strange Designer,

Life, mysterious designer of love and union
Don't know how it works, where it come from.
Witness, wishing to get back on the Wheel...

As a tiny, gentle postcript to J-F / Chopra Alter-Ego's otters link, please click my name.

love, H

"Love thy Enemies"

Is That Love?

Love your enemy.
Shun your friends.
(For you can't love everyone)
For friends are
sissies mentally
or physically like
yourselves and shall
always remain your
friends unless either
of you become stronger
than the other.

When you are the
strongest, the super,
you are God, and
unasked they will offer
themselves to you.

Is that love?
Unconditional love?
True love?
Godly love?
Tantric love -
when loving your love
you see God in love?

http://tinyurl.com/277vfm

Mallika... do you feel paparazzi should be exclusively only to professional-level things; and that a celeb's personal life, should be private like everyone elses?

IF someone stalked me, a nobody; I could hit them with stalking charges; but, celebs seem to have no protection? I know a few celebs, and the media-frenzy crowds of paparazzi in one group, are getting aggressive... and just too large.

Looking for a link to see Anands work? am I missing it?
V

Tammy,

Here is the link: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17950920/

Hello Mallika and Everyone,

I remember when Laci Peterson first went missing and all of her family were sure that Scott had nothing to do with it. They had no doubts, but then pieces of the truth about another aspect of Scott's personality started to creep into their consciousness and they had to face the facts. Still, Scott's family couldn't, and wouldn't and you can understand how horrible it would be to have to come to terms with the facts that a friend or relative committed horrible crimes against another, especially, if you are their mother or father or brother or sister, in many ways it would be like it was you yourself being accused, your devastation would be that great.

ruth

Hello Mallika and Everyone,

I was taking too long and needed to post. So I will continue my thoughts.

Although I wanted to see Scott punished for his actions I could not help but mourn for him too. I kept seeing his beautiful wife Laci, about to give birth to their first child and all that joy, and Scott, just, really, threw it all away.

The same with Anand, if he is guilty of these crimes then he needs to be punished but that does not mean you cannot mourn for all he has thrown away in the process of committing these crimes, all the joy of life that is lost, is devastating for all involved.

ruth

I believe that everyone has to deal with a duality with-in themselves. A lot of the time with males this other side is a some sort of sexual deviancy topped with expanded ego. Think Bill Clinton, and Mark Foley.

Concerning Foley (whom we heard nothing more of, since the election is over, but no politics here), the thing I found most interesting about his situation is that he was a leader in the cause of sexual predators and the internet. A lot of people point and scream hypocrite, but I think it is just his bad side out witted his good side long enough for him to get caught by society. If you want to find some men who pick up young prostitutes you will probably find some amongst the donators to the Center of Missing and Exploited Children.

Jesus said, allegedly, “What is said in secret today will someday be shouted from the rooftops".

Your friend, Anad Jon, still is the person you thought he was. And he was always someone else too.

Plus, of course, living in a bubble whether it be the swirl of the fashion industry, Washington, any group of like minded people, or even in solitude, ones darker side can be ‘allowed’ to dominate. (anyone who ever said to themselves ’why did I eat that whole chocolate cake last night?’ knows that feeling).
This dark side could also be influenced by a shifting popular culture. People who believe that is true might be forced to finding themselves aligning with the Jerry Fawells of the world because others won’t see it until they are faced with it personally.

What I don't like about the law and justice in corporate north america....is, they "allow" a two-tiered system to exist. The rich, famous, powerful; "must be" accountable for their crimes, as much; if not harder; than, the common person; because what they allow in public, is repeated behind closed doors.. and this powerful influence of fame and fortune; and lack of accountability when they cross legal laws set for "all" is what is creating chaos on our streets....

Ruth.. well said!! I have a nasty dark-souled relative; he was born that way(honestly!!)and the pain of facing the truth about it.. was one of my most painful.. devestating realities to come to terms with!

I stopped being victim to the negativity.. the day I walked away, accepting the fact, it was "up to me" to protect myself and my son from his mental-madness.. or continue his madness... by enabling it, via being his victims.

I still, never feel safe... ever! And this fear, I resent him for.. and my next, internal battle with the dark side....

with loving kindness,
North

Innocent until proven guilty, I hope.