At this moment, I am expecting a puzzled looked and sigh from some of you reading this. Well, let me share the story of this simple yet meaningful mantra. Two weeks ago I went to St. Thomas for a friends wedding, three of us shared a room. I was having a nice conversation with one of the girls about relationships and that sometimes we simply just have to have the courage to move on. As we continued our "girl talk" she suddenly said "He is good, but just not good for me." I thought "Great line!"… Then we continued to discuss the people that come and go from our lives, and how at times we may even feel sad about having to part with those who we know are, "good but just not good for us". Suddenly the letting go of those confusing emotions and not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings by isolating them from our lives became easier. We don't want to hurt anyone but sometimes we know it's time to let go, time for change.

To let go in a loving peaceful way means accepting the truth about those relationships. As I continued my conversation with her, I thought about an ex-boyfriend, and suddenly said "Yeah, his good but just not good for me" and vice versa," I am good but just not good for him". It dawned on me, at this moment that the universe was now receiving my message of acceptance, not only did it feel good saying it but it felt very liberating. Now I have toadmit that if your sitting in front of one of the most beautiful beaches in the world it can be a little easier to accept this change. I came back to Princeton, NJ with that mantra etched in my mind, embracing the meaning and enjoying the personal freedom it gave me. I felt like I just returned from a spiritual retreat.

That same week, I received a call from my best friend; we began discussing people, and share some of our experiences. She was frustrated with some of the feelings she still harbored from a past situation and the personal relationships that came with it. I took the opportunity to introduce her to my new found personal mantra…I told her; "You know, simply put; they are good but just not good for you!" She loved it! From her voice I could tell that the simple acknowledgment and truth in that mantra allowed her to embrace the old feelings and move towards change.

In our lifetime we meet and interact with so many people, friends, family, and co-workers. Each of them has a lesson to teach us and we have a lesson to teach them. We are meant to experience, let go, and learn those lessons in a loving manner to help in our continued personal growth as individuals and human citizens of the world. Holding on to negative energy and staying in situations that are not good for us is not helpful to our growth, and to let go with negative emotions and leave behind anger only creates another stagnant energy that will hurt you from growing and moving head in life.

The energy that I was originally creating and sending out when I had to end relationships was not loving and peaceful. I thought that by creating negative feelings and learning to dislike the person or situation was a better way to let go. Now, instead of getting angry or even sad when I have to part with anyone….I can simply tell myself "They are good, but just not good for me". Change has to happen for growth and accepting change is an empowering feeling. The other thought was; now that I was accepting this simple truth, the lesson that I was learning from these relationships was now completed. By accepting this simple truth, do I also change the karmic lesson and was I completing the karmic cycle?

So, share your experience. Think of someone from your past or present someone you know you had to cut ties with, the experience caused you some heartfelt pain, sit, visualize and see yourself saying "your good but just not good for me, I am good but just not good for you."

How do you feel?

About Jamie Cid,
Founder
SAIJADE INC.

Marketing Manager for Ramco's Global Aviation Vertical, Jamie is also founder of a natural skin care line and spend her time traveling, writing, and teaching character development to small children. My personal website www.saijade.com. I am also currently working on a book of inspirational stories.

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