Loved your post!
Great piece of wisdom!
Somethings so nice can really kill you! :-D

Thank you for sharing, I'm going through the same experience and am deciding to be celibate until my heart feels it is proper.

In the past I tried to rationalize away my misgivings but as you said it definitely came back to bite me in the ass.

Kudos for sharing openly!

Best wishes

-NOW
www.weareallone.tv

In my native language, "candor" is a very sweet word, a quality of honesty, loveliness and innocence in children. You have it too :)

Your mom is right, the heart will know. You will feel it, but in the beginning you probably won't believe your eyes.
Good luck, it won't be long.

Hi Max,

Welcome to my world.

The thing is that the more one develops real understanding the harder and harder it becomes to find a compatible partner/lover. The more you know about the self, Inner self, Spiritual self the more you begin to see through other people. I meet people now and I can read their Karma like the pages of a newspaper. It is important not to be judgemental about others of course. You will find however that your understaning will prove to be an obsticle when dating.

The solution is not within someone else thats for certain.

The next thing to come for you on the menu will be attachment. This will kill you trust me.

One of the best things I have ever learned to do is to mask off my spiritual side and allow the ego to operate freely under my watch.

You may think that this is you wanting to have sex with some beautiful women and have a great expereince etc but in reality it will be a very big test for you spiritually.

Good Luck

Love

Simon xx

Hi Max,

Keeping in mind your warning of your vulnerability right now,:), I must say I do get a kick out of reading our blogs. It sounds to me that you and your Mom have a plan, so, really, I guess, you just wanted to share it with the rest of us. Okay, then. good luck!

have a fabulous date...ruth

Max,

Your mom is very wise. Your open and honest relationship with her is reflected in your communication here with this blog community.

One's sex life can express at many levels. I am guessing we all know that "intimacy" at a surface level with its empty and short-lived life span. How many of these shallow experiences does one need to have before one makes new choices?

Max, it sounds like you are allowing space for the right woman to enter your life. You are attracting her via your consciousness, your energy field. This new relationship will bring new lessons and new awareness in your life. And the sex will be more than physical. This expanded intimacy is worth waiting..and so is she.

Trish~~

Trish~~

Self-harmony will bring the right one to you.
Finding someone to make you happy, won't.

Yeh Man, I agree with Simon, it's tricky.

In fact sex is an expression of the totality of being, and the amount of involvement on one's part is paramount to the level of one's evolvement.

The more aware you are the less local it becomes. So it's easier to relieve yourself, than to find a relieve with someone, if the urge is what we talking about here.

Yet, if you attuned enough than you'll attract exactly the kind of partner you'd need for your sport, in any case there is no shortage, when we are tuned to our own chemistry.

Interestingly enough, and I am talking from my own experience, the more time spent in celibacy ( 5 years in my case ) the more potent and attractive one becomes. Yet, it counts only as celibacy if it is of your own making. After two decades of sawing my wild oats as if there was no tomorrow, I simply celebrated the who I am for the first time, speaking on that level. Still, I'd say that even the notion of celibacy has to be understood, otherwise its waste of time to tie the knot on the part which likes to play about. I'd advocate only a spontaneous one, when it feels good and beautiful to be alone in that sense of the world.

In any case, the real reason for any celibacy is the upward movement of the energy. When that takes place celibacy is not only easy it is very joyful time.

So, yeh, don't make a big deal out of it, just go a have a good one, like latinos do not like anglo-saxons (meaning away with your head ). Forgive me for generalization. But beware of what Simon said, it'll came at a prize. For sex is not just a bonking on whatever level, it is much more than that.

Above all it refreshes all the desires in the body and mind from a deepest level, and if the objective is to attain the supreme peace born of detachment, it might be better to wait for the right time.

With Love

igor

LOL Max...I love you and your Mom is wise beyond words.

The focus of your attention is on getting, but your very being creates your experience. When you focus on getting you are saying you don't have...and you create your experience of not having. Does that make sence?

In order to change your experience simply change the focus of your attention. You could change the focus of your attention on what you DO have and having would become your expereince.....or you could seek the deeper meaning behind seeking anything.

Is not all suffering caused by desire?

hi max it seems you are over focussing your self just relax things will be sorted out anyways thank you for a lovely post i had a good time reading it