Thanks Max. I've found that to be true. But it is not the same as being overly emotional and/or wearing your heart on your sleeve. When a negative emotion erupts (that upsets others) it is best to treat it like a cheerio dropped on the floor.

That was one of those occassions where I'm not sure I said what I meant to say.
"Get Over It" sounds good. This being like the advice given about not to think monkeys during the upcoming meditation. The quicker monkeys goes away the better disciplined the mind.
Yours,

Still don't know if I said what I meant. Perhaps, treat yourself as if you were watching the sad stuff on the 6 O'clock News. That's what I mean.

Help me out here Ed. :)

Goes out
Comes back
The loves of a cat.
----Isswa ~1200AD

I think I agree with Sherry :) here...

We need to be careful about venting our authentic emotions if they are destructive, i.e. it's less about 'repressing' what we feel than feeling it but not really 'needing' to express it. When I'm really at peace within myself, absolutely nothing shakes that... I don't need to get upset about anything that happens or what anybody says. I've done allot purging before and frankly, for me it became a crutch for not living in the present moment... it's almost like you get attached to the drama, even though you've taken 'responsibilit' for it - you still are attached to the feeling it provides - it because a 'drama high' shrugs...and now? for the most part I like to be drama free. This is by no means an absolute but turning the energy into something more productive is always a more positive sign to me. How to do that is sometimes a mystery and what is best outlet for the energy is another...

For God's sake, Max, everyone is worth having in our lives!

Otherwise, you are still hiding, even though you may get a hiding....get crucified!

I'm mad! If you wan't me in your life, mad=angry. If you don't, mad=nuts!

Or I'm a big pussy cat!

Actually Max, I find myself raising my voice to make a statement of displeasure, usually about something on the news. And those around me think I'm angry, when internally I'm not. I call it my cultural response, because it's behaviour I've learned from the culture and has little to do with Me.

The poem is by Kobayashi Issa (1700).
(I'm not nuts.)

Also Max, there is no authentic me. It's all learned behavior from the culture. The authentic me only comes close to revealing itself outwardly in my poems and then it's just clothing. The best authentic revealing comes in my meditation process. As Daya Ma said "Give it to God." If this is developed then there is no need to blurt it all over the sidewalk.

As I said, I agree with your authenticity dynamic. I've seen in my girls that they sometimes don't have the right words or concepts to give that authentic expression. They rely on Oh I'll feel silly or stupid, and then project a mood of brooding quietly.
"A philosophy capable of embracing all phenomena is indispensable." Tibetan Yoga
Words are everything.;ie education for all!

Well, you know, there is a time and place for everything, and it also depends on the problem. I don’t think giving the green light to loose it, cry, or have a meltdown is a good idea. Self restraint is better alternative in most cases, for most of times it is a combination of several events that create the problem, and there are innocent victims around that might be to empathic. Loosing it, is not a good thing, although in some rare cases it is warranted, but usually the one who is emotional has no regard for anyone else, because they are blinded with emotion. Masking emotions can create internal issues, but so can letting it all out, draining the system of energy one feels weak, wasted, almost poisoned by toxic energy, and the bad feelings that arise later from the outburst. There also could be to many outbursts in their life and they have little to no control over it, and need professional help, because they create disharmony where ever they go. Self restraint, when done right with serious introspection makes a harmonizing virtue of human conditions.

Everyone is my relative.
It's the subtle intra-personal connection bringing about each drama of meeting which can get me outta this place but still in it but not of it.

Thank you, part two, Deepak.

All the world's a cultural stage, ma cherie ;)

Subtlely yours, Aunt Sherry.

But for the Cat
And the scarcity of cheese
I could be content

....said the mouse authentically

But for the mouse
And the large holes in gruyere
The cupboard weren't bare

Cheshire Cat (off duty)

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and only the snow
can begin to explain how
anyone's any is all...

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Each nascent crystal
Melting clear upon my eye
Becomes a teardrop

X

The Path

Take refuge in the calmness of a silent mind
Refuse attention to the mind that lays claim to doing
Take nothing personally for a this person you are not
Refuse any claim to the personal world that you can find
Take in your outside concerns for inside introspection
Refuse attachments that the Self takes to be its own
Take alms from the silence which cleanses the mind
Refuse the temporary identity and give it no sway on you
Take the body and mind as the holy ghost and be the son
Refuse all personal doing for the moment for it will not bind
Take no satisfaction in desires and no fears as relevant
Refuse homage to the world as real and look for reality within
Take your stand in Eternity a universe without stars is your sign
Refuse ownership in suffering for all man made chains are false
Take nothing here with you and be satisfied with nothing as real
Refuse giving value to images for Eternity lies beyond the mind

Thank you KAN,
As many times as I go away,
something keeps calling me back.
I need more somethings than not.

#17
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she guessed but only
when by now and bird by snow
she laughed his joy...

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...to be continued
see ya
b

Split sides coincide
Crying down my window pane
Laughing up my sleeve

Wipes the mist away
Wet the sleeve strange the laughter
Joy is glassless